Do you make time to set the stage for a little romance? Maybe you freshen up the bedroom. You light some candles. You shave your legs and put your fancy lotion or perfume on. You don’t rely on someone else to set the stage; you Do It Yourself.
Do you also make your own items to add extra fun to your marriage bed? Are you a DIY sex item maven?
This past weekend, I ventured into the land of DIY sex props. I had posted on the forums at The Marriage Bed that despite the fact that my husband had informed me that I still have my groove thing and can still shake it, I can’t dance—and I wanted to change that. My husband and I had a hotel night planned (and already paid for) related to a work dinner for him, and I had decided that I would try to strip for him. I’d already done this a couple times but just felt really awkward because I cannot dance. I mean, I really can’t dance. If you’ve ever seen Elaine on Seinfeld, you’ll understand just how bad I am: Elaine dances better than I do.
Someone suggested looking up burlesque tutorial videos. Not only did I find one with four simple moves that even I can do, I noticed that the dancer had a boa. A boa! I thought. I knit! I can make a boa!
So as my daughter and I were leaving town for the long drive to her university, I stopped and picked up some yarn and knitting needles. While my daughter drove, I knitted away. (“What are you knitting, Mom?” “Oh, just a scarf, sweetie.” “Will you make me one like that?” Uh, no.)
The whole time I was knitting, I realized that I was anticipating our upcoming sexual encounter. Every stitch I knit was an investment in our intimate life and a reminder of what I would be doing for my husband. It was a good way to be thinking about sex and knowing that I was putting something of myself into the planning.
The boa and the dancing were a big hit with my husband. The boa looked more like a teal-colored mop than something feathery and sexy, but as my husband watched me pretend I can dance, he knew that the mop was more than just a prop; he knew it was a symbol of my investment in our marriage bed. He knew that I wanted to do something to please him. And that’s exactly what I proceeded to do.
I started to wonder what other things I could make using my limited crafting ability. Readers, is there something you’ve made to enhance your sex life that you would be willing to share? Do you make interesting costumes? Velvet restraints? Special foods to share with your sweetie in front of the fireplace?
Post in the comments to tell us about it. If you email a picture to firstname.lastname@example.org, I’ll share some of them in a future post. (Please, send pictures of the item only.) If there’s something you can tell us about how you made, all the better!
What are your DIY Sex Items?