I’m still searching for my voice in this blog. I know it will settle into place eventually. But even though I’m still seeking my voice, I have a very solid sense of why I started the blog. It is for Christian women who are looking to change their own sexual attitudes and behaviors within their marriages.

Several years ago, I heard a sermon that, well, didn’t change my life as much as it clarified it. Our pastor preached a sermon challenging us to think about what we are called to do. I don’t remember the specifics, but I do remember that he talked about how sometimes there is no burning bush that makes our purpose obvious, that what we need to do is pay attention to the life we’ve been living and the choices we’ve made. What did the pattern of my life show me about what God had arranged for me?

For my entire spiritual life, I’d wondered about what I’m called to do and how I would know when it happens.  Even in my mid-40’s, I was wondering, “What is my purpose on this earth, in this life?”  On the way home from church that day, I realized that I did know what I was called to do–and that I’ve been doing it in ways for years.  Even before I recognized the call, I had responded to it.

I thought about the things I had given my time to during my adult life.  As a fairly young adult in grad school, I always made extra time for the young women in my classes when they alluded to abuse, rape, or assault.  I provided chocolate and tissues and walked them to counselors’ offices.  Even before that, I sat with friends in high school and college and provided hugs, a shoulder to cry on, and an ear to listen.  As a mom of young kids, I organized a group for working moms who needed support in their lives.  I became involved in several online support groups and websites specifically for women facing certain pregnancy and medical challenges. All of these things had given me a feeling of peace and rightness.

For 30 years, supporting women is the one thing I’ve made time for continuously.  Other things have grabbed my attention for a few months or years.  Then they passed out of my life.  It is only now, as I am able to stand back and look at the tapestry of three decades, that I can see the pattern that has emerged.

I was called to minister to women–but I don’t remember hearing any call at all.  At what point did God say, “This is what thou shalt do?”  At what point did I say, “Yes, I accept?”  God called to my spirit, and it responded joyously, albeit somewhat obliviously.  Did any of our Bible figures respond to a call with as much cluelessness as I did?  Does it count as accepting the call when you don’t know you’ve done so?  I think so, but it’s an odd feeling to know that I didn’t recognize what life I’d been living until I was halfway through it.

One Thought on “My Burning Bush Moment

  1. userdand on August 22, 2013 at 10:58 am said:

    I understand your saying it’s an odd feeling that it took that long but, to quote John Lennon, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” While I am taking the quote a bit out of exact context, I feel it applies here. You may not have been planning some specific purpose for your life in the past other than a career, especially while in grad school, and then life happened. You got married and raised a family and your focus was there. I have no doubt your passion for helping was still being expressed, but it was secondary to your marriage and career if you were still working. (It makes me curious as to whether or not your career choice was either directed or affected by your spiritual gift of helps.)

    I do agree with you in that I think we can blindly respond to what others may see as a call in our life. Like you, if at some point we look back and see where we put our time, and in some cases money too, we will see where our joy and fulfillment lies. Also like you, I believe therein is our purpose and perhaps our ministry. If you believe in God’s providence, then you must know you the moment of looking back was preordained and it happened in His time. He kept you in His grad school until you learned what He wanted you to know and apply in your life. I wouldn’t punish yourself with a lot of second guessing. Two things need to be considered if you do: questioning the timing may indicate a lack of faith in His providence which is a place you don’t want to find yourself in, and there is nothing you can do about the past to change it, only learn from it; which you seem to have done.

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