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It can be hard enough for us to stretch ourselves outside our sexual comfort zones in the best of circumstances. So what do we do when the circumstances aren’t so great?

I’ve received several emails from women recently asking the same question:

What do you do when your husband wants to do something sexually that you’re pretty sure he got from porn?

From sexual positions to oral or anal sex to props to toys to what to say or do during sex, wives can struggle when a husband presents a new suggestion, especially when we think it is something he has seen in porn.

I thought I’d ask you all how you’ve handled this. Click here to take the survey.

I’ll share the results and some of my own thoughts in a few weeks.

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4 Thoughts on “How Do You Respond When He Gets the Idea from Porn?

  1. Shaun on March 23, 2016 at 3:08 am said:

    Number one – Remember the ASSUMPTION is he got it watching porn. Number two – Is there a difference if he got it from a sex manual, sex self help book etc?

  2. I plan to address that assumption in my post, and several women have commented about that on the survey as well.

    As for whether he got the idea from a self-help book as opposed to porn, yes, I think many women would say that there is a difference because reading about it in a book does not bring along images and the experience of sexual pleasure in the way that porn does..

    • Lisa Marie on March 29, 2016 at 12:06 pm said:

      I agree with you! I have mainly male friends and they don’t watch porn for the purpose of helping their marriage, lol. It’s for self-gratification and lust. A self-help book, however, may be something he picked up for ideas that he thinks would be mutually pleasing or helpful with good intentions for both partners.

  3. this is interesting… can’t wait to see the survey results

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