What can you do when your needs are not being met?

In Lost in Translation, I wrote about a typical husband’s desire for his wife to be more passionate. I encouraged you to understand what your husband means and try to fulfill that. I suggested that you help your husband better see what you already are doing toward that end.

The other side to this is equally important—getting our needs met. Although I often write about a husband’s desires and perspective, in no way does that diminish you, your perspective, or your needs. Both spouses matter in marriage.

What can you do when you’re the one with a need that isn’t being met? Read More →

Learning to apologize was a critical and fundamental part of restoring our marriage. #9Thoughts

Join me on a journey through Sheila Wray Gregoire’s 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage (affiliate links throughout this post). If you would like to be part of our book study group, use the form on this post to register.

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Of all the thoughts in  Sheila Wray Gregoire’s 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, the hardest for me by far was the first one:

My husband is my neighbor. Read More →

What does emotional disconnection look like to you?

I spend a lot of time here writing about our husbands.

That grows out of my own experience. I’ve written about the difficult moment when I realized how deeply my husband had been hurt by my sexual rejection of him. Many women have shared that they, too, just didn’t understand.

It was only when we were able to understand on an emotional level what sex means to our husbands—and how the lack of sex hurt them emotionally—that we were able to take that first step toward improving the sexual intimacy–and the overall intimacy–in our marriages.

Understanding our husbands and having compassion for them does not require us to set aside our own feelings. It doesn’t mean that our husbands are more important than we are. Read More →