Nike knows what they’re talking about. Just do it.

Yesterday, I encouraged you to choose just one step to take toward sexual healing. I suggested that you pray for 24 hours about what it would take for you to take that step.

Today, just do it.

When you’ve had habits for a lot of years, it can take courage to try something different even once. Ask yourself, “What is the worst possible thing that might happen if I do this?” It might put things in perspective.

For many years, I wouldn’t let my husband watch me undress. After all, I wouldn’t want him to get any ideas about sex, right? So I would quick pull a shirt off and throw a night shirt on while he was in the bathroom.  I would change in the bathroom. A couple times I even slept with a bra on so he wouldn’t see my naked breasts while I was changing.

One of the many things I needed to work on changing was letting my husband see me naked more. I remember one night while he was in the bathroom. Out of habit, I reached to make sure my sleep shirt was close by before I undressed. I had to remind myself that I was trying to let my husband see me naked more. I had to take deep breaths. I had to remind myself that the worst thing that might happen is that he would want sex. I had to remind myself that this wouldn’t be the end of the world. I had to steel myself to get naked in front of my husband. I was shaking.

It sounds so sad to me now, to think of how very hard it was to let my husband see my breasts. But it was hard, and I did it. I took my shirt off and made myself wait until he got back into the bedroom. I faced away from him, but knew he could see me in the mirror. I removed my bra. And then I decided I might as well give him a real treat. I took a deep breath and turned around, letting me see my droopy stretch-marked breasts in all their natural glory.

He looked like a kid in a candy shop. This used to bug me, because I would feel like he was viewing me only sexually. This time, I reminded myself that it was good that I am the one he desires. I am the only one he looks at with that particular expression on his face. I smiled to myself in amazement that my middle-aged breasts could still do that to him.

When you are trying to change a habit, it helps to be intentional about what you are doing. Choose your action. Think about what is required. Pray about it. Be brave.

Today, do it.

11 Thoughts on “Today, do it.

  1. Moving. Thank you for sharing in such vulnerability. That is tough to do! Encouraging! Blessings to you!

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