Who wants to be viewed as a curse? “It isn’t the Taylor Curse,” I would say. “It’s the Taylor Blessing.” Continue reading The Strong-Willed Woman
When my relationship with Big Guy is good, sex can be easy. If we’ve connected in ways that are meaningful to me, if he’s given me a glimpse into his heart, or if we’ve just shared a positive experience, sex can flow naturally from that and I’m all on board.
Sometimes, though, our relationship has hiccups. Sex isn’t so easy then. Continue reading Restoring Desire After Your Feelings Have Been Hurt
I had a tangled mess on my hands. I’d gathered empty hangers from our bedroom closets and had carefully placed them in a laundry basket to carry to the laundry room in the basement—which I then did carelessly, thereby messing up my hangers that had been neatly lined up.
In my laundry room, I pulled the shirts out of the dryer, thinking that I had just one task: hanging up shirts.
But then I grabbed a hanger out of the laundry basket. Continue reading Untangle Your Mess
Do you send your husband a message with your choice of sleepwear?
I used to—only it turns out I wasn’t sending the messages I thought I was.
For years, I wore a t-shirt and underwear to bed, with an occasional variation. Although my t-shirt and underwear routine had begun during my teens, over time they became a sign of my resistance to sex.
It used to be that my sleepwear sent not-too-subtle signals regarding my sexual availability—and much of the time, I was keenly aware of that fact. Continue reading What Message Does Your Sleepwear Send?
In Love Like a Woman, I encouraged you to embrace your sexuality as God designed it for you. It is unfair to your marriage to measure your sexuality by a yardstick of your husband’s sexuality.
Embracing our sexuality means that we recognize and appreciate our sexual response for what it is. We need to reject the idea that a male paradigm should apply to us.
There’s a flip side to that: we also need to reject the idea that a female paradigm should apply to our husbands. Continue reading Love Your Man: Should Your Husband’s Sexuality Be Like Yours?
One book that has received mixed–but strong–reviews is Dr. Laura’s Schlessinger’s The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands (affiliate links throughout this post).
Some women dismiss it as a male-centered book that ignores a woman’s needs, but others point to it as the catalyst for major positive change in their marriages. Continue reading How Do Men Receive Love? A Review of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
Are you stuck in a pattern of “the usual” when it comes to your sex life? Maybe it’s time to spice things up a bit.
This weekend, be the one to kick things up just a little. It doesn’t have to be a big step, but I want to challenge you to think of a way to sexually bless your husband that is not on your list of usual things. Continue reading 18 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life This Weekend
I’d like to explore this a bit—partly because it was discussed in the comments on that post but also because it teases at something that I’ve been wrestling with for a while now. Continue reading Questioning an Assumption: Is Being Valued for Sex Such a Bad Thing?