The Lesson in a Dress

Is it time for you to change perspective?

You’ve likely seen it by now: the dress that defies our understanding (be careful with the link, as the picture’s caption is pretty salty). Some of us look at it and see white and gold, while others see it as blue and black. Within the span of about twelve hours, the dress practically broke the internet. Continue reading The Lesson in a Dress

The Family Bible, Sex, and the Closet

Sex is a treasure. Do you keep it tucked away, or is it part of your everyday life?

We are preparing to move, and sorting through family memorabilia can make me feel a bit melancholy. I have so many decisions about what to keep and what to throw away. I find myself frequently wondering if there is anyone besides me who would find sentimental value in an item.

So yesterday, in an effort to reconnect with one item that I know for sure I’ll be keeping, I went to a closet and pulled out a book that is nearly 150 years old. Continue reading The Family Bible, Sex, and the Closet

The Source of Your Beauty

Your external beauty is not the source of your worth; it is the reflection of it.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4  

For many of us, how we feel about our appearance affects not only our self-worth, it also affects our willingness to let our husbands see us naked. I finally won that battle, but I still have some work to do in believing that my worth is not partly based on my appearance. Continue reading The Source of Your Beauty

Refinement and Focus

Grow deeper, not bigger.

In the spring of 2013 when I began The Forgiven Wife, I had a clear sense of the blog’s mission. It took me a while to find my blogging feet and figure out how this mission would look in practice, but the mission has stayed consistent.

For several months now, I have been praying about the ministry that happens here. I have sought the counsel of pastors, sister bloggers, and the women in my prayer group. I’ve read through emails I’ve received since the blog’s inception. I’ve spent a lot of time with God. Continue reading Refinement and Focus

Waves of Healing

Healing is a journey and a process.

For me, healing has been a journey—and not always an easy one.

My experience with the healing of sexual intimacy in my marriage has been that healing happens piece by piece, layer by layer.

I suspect this is true for many of us. We heal one layer—and that healed layer grows stronger and more solid. It prepares us for healing the next layer that is revealed. Continue reading Waves of Healing



Ladies, thank you so much for sharing fond memories of dates with your husband this week. I’ve even asked my husband to read the list in case he’s trying to think of Valentine’s Day surprises for me. I’m working on a couple surprises for him, too. ;)

I’ll be writing a post about some of your dates, too, so look for that next week.

The grand prize for our giveaway goes to Christina for her comment on this blog! She wins Foreplay in a Row game, Emotion Lotion  warming lotion, and a LAmour bullet vibrator, all courtesy of Married Dance. Christina, check your email from me today.

The winner of my giveaway is Lynn. Lynn will get a package from me that includes chocolate, a hand-knit boa, a journal, and a Travel Vibes Maui vibrator (courtesy of Married Dance)! Check your email, Lynn.

If you entered the giveaways at The Generous Wife and Bonny’s OysterBed, be sure to check their posts today to see if you won.

Be sure you’re thinking about how you can romance your husband for Valentine’s Day. You both deserve a little romance! ♥

Valentine’s Day Giveaway!

Valentine’s Day is next week. Are you ready?

It's giveaway time!

I’m joining with my blogging friends Lori (The Generous Wife) and Bonny (Bonny’s OysterBed7) to do a Valentine’s Day giveaway.

My giveaway includes some things that are special to me:

  • My favorite chocolate—Dove Dark Heart Promises (affiliate link)
  • A hand-knit boa. I knit this last year after knitting the one I wrote about here. It’s been sitting in a knitting bag waiting for the right occasion, and this is it.
  • A blank journal. I have found it helpful to chronicle my journey toward a more whole sexual intimacy—even more than what you see here. I want to encourage you to write about your journey, no matter what path that takes.
  • A Travel Vibes Maui vibrator, courtesy of Married Dance. I know vibrators aren’t for everyone. However, several readers have shared with me that they would like to try a vibrator but they’re too embarrassed to actually buy one. If you win one, you’ll be spared that. (The link gives you some good suggestions for how you and your husband can use a vibrator together, too.) I wanted to include this because it is so important to me to encourage wives to try new things with their husbands.

Valentine's Day 2015 Giveaway!

You can see Lori’s giveaway here and Bonny’s giveaway here.

In addition to our individual giveaways, we’re going to have a grand prize, too! Someone will win some wonderful items from Married Dance, a Christian friendly sex toy store (Foreplay in a Row game, Emotion Lotion  warming lotion, and a LAmour bullet vibrator). Everyone who enters our individual giveaways will be eligible for our grand prize drawing.

We’ll choose winners Thursday night so all our winners can receive their items before Valentine’s Day.

Are you ready to enter? Just leave a comment and share a fond memory of a date with your husband!

Thanks for entering, ladies!

Comments are now closed. Stay tuned for results!

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