So far in this Making Sexual Changes series, I’ve talked about understanding how we got to the beginning of this journey of change and the process of beginning the journey. Today I’d like to wrap it up by talking about what you can actually do in those first steps.
You’ve prayed, you’ve found your courage, and you’re ready to take your first sexual step—but what should it be? Read More →
This is the second of a three-part series about how to begin to make changes in sexual intimacy in your marriage.
Some of us made the decision to change in an instant. A realization or conviction can be a lightning strike paradigm shift. Others of us had the decision creep up on us like thunder that rumbles far away long before you realize a storm is on its way. Not everyone embraces what the storm brings, either. While some of us stand with our hearts ready to accept the waves of change that will wash over us, others try to fight off those waves with an umbrella. Read More →
I hear from many women about how they came to decide to work on sexual intimacy in their marriages. Not a single one has ever said that she woke up one morning and just decided to do it out of the blue. Nor has anyone told me that it was easy.
If you are a wife who has made the decision to change, you may be asking yourself, Now what? This post is for you. Actually, so are the next two posts. I had so much to say that I decided it would be easier for you to read one bit at a time.
Today I would like to encourage you to think about what brought you to your decision to change. Read More →
Words cannot adequately describe my emotions when I realized I needed to work on sex.
Some of these emotions were due to my newfound awareness of how deeply our sexual disconnection had hurt my husband. I felt a heavy burden of guilt for having caused him so much pain. My heart hurt for him. I felt like I had completely failed at marriage and being a wife. Read More →
Eye candy is something that is visually appealing, with just a dollop of sexy thrown into the mix. If your husband is like most guys, seeing you be sexy is the best eye candy possible.
Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look at the Song of Songs 4:1-5:
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A few years ago, I asked for your help in sending me to a conference, and you came through in a way that still humbles me. Now I am asking for your support on an on-going basis to help me encourage women in their marriages. I am also asking you to become an encourager yourself.
Marriage matters, and sexual intimacy matters to marriage.My own life has shown that all too well. Read More →
One of the Bible verses that speaks so deeply to my heart is Psalm 46:10: “Be still, and know that I am God.”
Many women stay busy or take on too much, leaving them with little time for rest and relaxation. We put everyone else first and wear ourselves out. By the time our husbands approach us for sex, we may simply be too weary. Read More →
And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 36:26
I’m an advocate for the “fake it until you make it” approach to improving sexual intimacy. I acted my way into a feeling that I enjoyed sex.
However, I think there is only one reason this approach worked for me:
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My Facebook feed recently had a meme that said, “Physical intimacy isn’t and can never be an effective substitute for emotional intimacy.”
A woman made the comment, “Men just don’t get this!”
I understand that physical and emotional intimacy are not two separate things that are diametrically opposed to each other. I know that physical intimacy can be a pathway to emotional intimacy. I saw the meme as flawed because it assumes something I don’t think is true.
At the same time, however, the meme resonated deeply with me. I completely understood the feeling behind that meme. It is a feeling I still have sometimes. Read More →
In the comment section of Have You Waited Too Long?, the question arose of why a wife’s orgasm means so much to her husband.
Guys, could you help me out here? I’d like to write a post about this, but I’d like your input so I don’t have to guess.
The survey is exactly one question:
What does it mean to you when your wife has an orgasm during sexual activity with you?
You can find the survey HERE.