Practical Ways to Enjoy Plus-Size Sexual Intimacy

The biggest hurdle plus-size women face in the marriage bed isn’t our bodies . It is our feelings about our weight and size.

In my previous post, I reminded you that  you are fearfully and wonderfully made. God’s gift of sexual intimacy in marriage is for you just as it is for other women.

It is possible to enjoy a thriving marriage bed as a plus-size woman.

God designed us to enjoy sexual intimacy in the marriage bed—but that doesn’t mean it is always going to be a bed of roses.

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A plus-size woman can enjoy sexual intimacy.

Being a plus-size woman brings challenges in many areas of life—including the area of sexual intimacy.

I know first-hand how painful this subject can be.  I was a thin and active child, but when I was a young adult I began to put on weight. I am now quite overweight. Fortunately, Big Guy adores my curves and always has.  Yes, I want to be healthier. I would like to be thinner. For the most part, though, I’ve come to terms with my weight. This is who I am and how I look. This is the body I have right now, and it’s the one with which I live my life.

Still, writing this post is a struggle.  I’ve never had any problem sharing about the sexual intimacy in my marriage here. This feels different. Harder. More vulnerable. Nakeder. (I totally made that word up. It works.) I was not prepared how difficult this post would be to write.

I’m not going to lecture anyone about health here. We all know we need to be healthier.

I’d like to be honest about the unique sexual challenges we plus-size women face. In this post I’m going to talk specifically about body image and our feelings about our weight. I have a follow-up post that will address some physical realities of plus-size intimacy.

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Sex Chat for Christian Wives launches today!

Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your husband–and Happy Podcast Launch to J, Bonny, Gaye, and me!

We gave you a preview with our first episode last week, but today is the full launch of Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Read More →

Don't fear transformation in your marriage.

A caterpillar has its own charm, but God’s desire is for that caterpillar to experience a transformation and become a butterfly.

I doubt that the caterpillar knows to expect a transformation, but it does know to do the task it faces: spin the cocoon that allows the transformation to occur.

It emerges, with a brand new beauty and wings to fly.

I’ve been thinking about butterflies this week. Butterflies and death.

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Preparing for Launch!

I am so excited!

The new podcast I’m doing with the women behind Bonny’s Oysterbed 7, Calm.Healthy.Sexy., and Hot, Holy & Humorous launches on February 14.

That’s Valentine’s Day, folks—and it’s one week from today!

I expect it will take us a few episodes to hit our stride, but we are so ready for you to join us around the virtual table for a woman-to-woman chat about sexual intimacy in marriage.

We’ve recorded episodes on getting in the mood, stress, positions, exercise and sex, female sexual response, and more—and we have an awesome list of topics for future episodes.

If you’d like to be notified when new episodes go live, you can subscribe at sexchatforchristianwives.com. Also, follow our social media accounts:

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If you have a question or would like to suggest a topic for a future episode, go to our website, click on Have a Question?, and ask us questions you’d like to hear us discuss.

I’d like to ask for continuing prayers as we prepare for our launch.

We are so excited that we have a little preview for you. Click here to listen to our first episode, Getting in the Mood.

Enjoy!

A Loveliness of Links

It’s time for a Loveliness of Links from last month!

Just like a loveliness of ladybugs all working can help cultivate a healthy garden, a loveliness of blog posts can help you cultivate a healthy—and intimate—marriage.

Enjoy these great posts from January.

  1. 10 Ways to Talk So Your Husband Will Hear, To Love, Honor & Vacuum
  2. 20 Practical Romantic Resolutions For The Unromantic Husband, The Romantic Vineyard
  3. 9 Ways to Have a Rotten Sex Life, Jess Connell
  4. Are You Listening to What Your Spouse Says about Sex? Hot, Holy & Humorous
  5. Bucket List for Two, The Generous Wife
  6. Can Your Marriage Survive Without Sex? Intimacy in Marriage
  7. Favorite Sexy Marriage Articles of 2016, Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
  8. Find Peace So You Can Find Orgasm, Bonny’s OysterBed7
  9. Find Peace So You Can Find Orgasm, Bonny’s OysterBed7
  10. Hierarchy of Sex? Awaken-Love
  11. How and What to Pray for Your Spouse, Messy Marriage
  12. Intercourse Insight, Awaken-Love
  13. Naked and Hiding in the Bushes, Better Than the Honeymoon
  14. Open Your Heart to Understand, Encourage Your Spouse
  15. Porn Affects You, Even if You Don’t Look At It, Authentic Intimacy
  16. Q&A with J: Does He Know How Your Orgasm Works? Hot, Holy & Humorous
  17. Stop Being a Butthole Wife, Her View from Home
  18. Want More Joy in Your Life and Relationships? Follow These Three Simple Steps, Shaunti Feldhahn
  19. What’s the Purpose of Marriage? Authentic Intimacy
  20. Your Sexuality is Unique, The Generous Wife

You can conquer the learning curve!

I’ve been busy preparing for our podcast launch.

Much of the work has come naturally and is more fun than it is work: social media planning and posting, brainstorming ideas for podcast episodes, writing program notes, and having and recording our conversations about sexual intimacy in Christian marriages.

One thing, however, has been a challenge for me: sound editing. I came to this with absolutely no experience working with sound. Zero. Zilch. Nada. Read More →

No mess is bigger than God.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

I was working at a private college with several Catholic sisters on staff and went to a meeting to discuss the non-academic challenges faced by some students. Some of our students had serious messes in their lives.

My colleagues and I shared a few stories about the ways God’s providence was evident in the way these students managed to rise above their challenges.

One of the sisters thought for a moment, then quietly said something along these lines: “It’s in the mess where the Holy Spirit resides.” Read More →

Is it okay for a Christian wife to enjoy sex?

Sexual intimacy is about so much more than just the physical pleasure—but sometimes we diminish the value of this pleasure just because it is physical.

God designed us to experience sexual enjoyment. With over 8,000 nerve endings, the clitoris exists only for sexual pleasure.

Despite God’s clear intention for us to experience sexual pleasure, many women struggle to fully enjoy the physical pleasure that comes with sex. (I am not talking here about struggling to experience an orgasm, which I’ve written about here.)
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Escape to the mountains. Genesis 19:17

Finding encouragement for marriage growth in the bible isn’t exactly unexpected. However, I was somewhat surprised to find such encouragement as I was reading about the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. Read More →

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