Connection, Restored

I had plans for today. I was going to apply for a couple jobs that were posted yesterday, work on a writing project, mow the lawn, and try to tackle a counter full of dirty dishes. My whole day was laid out in front of me with a handy-dandy to-do list.

The only thing I had accomplished was glaring at the dirty dishes when the phone rang. It was Big Guy.
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How to Have Sex When You Don’t Really Feel Like It

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Sometimes sex requires gymnastics—not during sex itself, but in my mind before I can even have sex.
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What Do You Know About Yourself?

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My hair has thrown me into a tizzy. It has always been fine, with a little natural wave. By the time I was in junior high and started paying attention to my hair, I was trying to use a curling iron to tame it into a Farrah Fawcett ‘do. Continue reading

Postcard from SheSpeaks

Photo by Bonny Burns

Photo by Bonny Burns

Oh, dear friends, I can’t thank you enough for being the means of God’s provision to send me to this conference!

I have experienced God’s presence in so many ways, and I am so blessed to be here. I thought it would be fun to share what I’ve been up to.
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Prayers for Husbands

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With a blog that is a ministry for women, I am sometimes puzzled by the number of men who read here. I am grateful that they do, as the stories and comments from women here provide them with insight that can help them better understand their wives.

With both comments and emails from hurting husbands, I am often brought to tears by the depth of pain brought on by a wife’s sexual refusing and gate-keeping. And I know all too well that where his heart hurts, hers probably does as well.

When I approve and respond to comments from men, I am always mindful of how the comments can be part of ministry to women. I think about wives reading the comments and understanding a bit more about the hearts of men. I also think about the wives of the men who comment and email. Supporting their husbands is a way of indirectly ministering to these women..

Over the next few days, I am going to ask that you lift up these men in prayer. Pray for their relationship with Christ. Pray that they find the courage and love to help their wives see the need to work on sexual intimacy. Pray that they are able to continue to love even while feeling unloved. Pray for these men, and pray for their wives.

Men, if there are specific ways we can pray for you, please post a request in the comments. I’ll do my best to approve comments while I am away from home.

Ladies, please pray for these men and their wives even as you pray for your own husband. Let’s surround these marriages with prayers for healing.

Blessings to you all.

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Five Days and Ten Years

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The journey toward full intimacy in my marriage has required me to knock down the walls I had erected to protect my heart. Opening myself up to the joy that was waiting for me in marriage meant risking heartache and sadness. Continue reading

What’s on Your Spreadsheet?

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Do you know how often you and your husband have sex? If you say “no” on more than an occasional basis, my guess is that even if you don’t know, he does.
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Fear of the Future

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A good friend recently faced a life crisis that has now been resolved in an unexpected way. She asked me yesterday, “Would it be a bad thing for me to say that I could get comfortable?  That things are good?”

I pointed that she is so accustomed to living with fear of the future that she has forgotten how to accept and receive the blessings right in front of her. In all my wisdom for others but not myself, I didn’t even see that I’ve been doing the same thing. Continue reading

Getting Ready to Roll

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A few months ago, I shared with you my desire to attend the upcoming She Speaks Conference.  I asked for your help, in funds and prayers, so I can attend. Continue reading

Milestones

 

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A couple years ago, I mistakenly thought my marriage had completely recovered from the damage my years of gate-keeping and refusal had done. After all, we were having sex frequently, I was initiating as much as my husband was, and I had learned to let go of a lot of the hurts in which my gate-keeping and refusing had grown.
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