What Would Jesus Say?
A Christ-like approach to women in sin is to acknowledge where they are, let them know they are loved, make sure they are safe—and only then to talk about their sin. Shouldn’t we do the same thing?
Tag: sexual refusal
“Needs More Vinegar”
A man’s sexuality is inherent to his sense of self. How can you respond?
Six Things, Redux
Three years ago, I wrote a post that upset a lot of folks: Six Things to Know About Sexual Refusal. I’ve moved! While you can …
Six Things to Know about Emotional Disconnection
I spend a lot of time here writing about our husbands. That grows out of my own experience. I’ve written about the difficult moment when …
When a Wife Won’t Have Sex: What Does the Bible Say?
The Bible shows us multiple paths for pursing healing and restoration in a marriage in which a wife has avoided sex.
The Sorrow of a Wife Who Says No
During the long years when I avoided sex, my husband felt so much sorrow. So did I. What do you remember about your feelings from the past?
Naked and Broken
What happens when you change your perspective? Do you show your own husband as much mercy as the Samaritan showed a naked and broken stranger? Not only is your husband your intimate partner, he is also your neighbor who should have your love and care.
Leaving the Path of Refusal
Women who become sexual gatekeepers or refusers don’t all walk the same path to get to that place. We all have our reasons. Although …
What If It Really Is Me?
I refused my husband for several years. The frequency was far below what he wanted, I rarely participated, and I looked at sex as just …
Sin and Sacrifice
Today I was asked how I would have responded to my husband if he had pointed out that I was sinning and then showed me …