Due to the sensitive subject matter of this blog, it might be helpful to pull together some of the practices I’ve tried to develop.
- Commenting Please be kind in how you speak to and about others, most especially of your spouse. This blog exists to uplift marriage. We all need to vent at times, but it can be done without dragging someone else down. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ here. I reserve the right to edit or remove comments that I believe are unkind or inappropriate. Remember that behind each post and comment is a person. Accusations and hateful comments hurt people and don’t belong here. Comments are moderated.
- A Women’s Ministry Because this blog exists to support and encourage women, I want to be sure women’s voices are not drowned out by men’s voices. Men may comment on posts, but I will read their comments with an eye toward whether those comments might interfere with ministry for their wives specifically and other wives in general. If comments from men are lengthy, engage in debate, or focus on their needs rather than on the needs of women, they are less likely to be approved. This blog is not a place for husbands to seek support. (See this page for resources for husbands.)
- Who I am not I am not a counselor, doctor, Biblical scholar, or pastor. I am a woman, with a heart that calls to the lives of other women. I respond to as many emails and comments as I can. Please seek professional support if you are in need.
- You are a child of God When I talk about marriage and sexual refusal, I am speaking about marriages in which both spouses are generally well-intentioned. I speak from my own experience. If you are being abused, then get yourself safe first. Then, with plenty of real-life support, figure out what to do about your marriage.
- Refusal is . . . When I talk about sexual refusal, I am referring to a chronic expectation of “no.” In a healthy marriage, an occasional “no” should not be an issue. One woman commented on a blog post that marriage doesn’t give a man free pass to use his wife selfishly. I agree. When I refer to gate-keeping, I mean having specific expectations of conditions in which sex might occur, such as requiring certain chores to always be completed prior to sex or allowing only one or two positions. One person should not be in control of the marriage bed.
- Guest Posts. I will accept guest posts only from explicitly Christian writers and organizations.
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