How can you pull out of a season with diminished sexual frequency?

Years ago at church camp, we always did a skit that involved improbable characters: the Maytag repairman, a crazy cat lady who had dogs, a teacher without any students, a trapeze artist with a fear of heights, a pet shop owner who was afraid of fish, and so on.

I’ve become one of those improbable characters: I’m a sex blogger who is struggling to enjoy sex right now. Read More →

My thoughts about #MeToo: can a hashtag really make a difference?

Last week I wrote a post about dealing with all the news about Harvey Weinstein. I was pondering some lighter subjects to write about for today’s post, thinking it would help provide some balance after writing about a subject that can be so difficult to read about.

But then came #MeToo. Read More →

How can we respond when sexual harassment and assault are in the news?

Sigh.

Here we go again. Stories of one man’s history of sexual harassment and sexual assault have been filling my news feed. Two years ago, it was Bill Cosby. This year it’s Harvey Weinstein.

Frankly, it is hard for me to see all the stories. Like most women, I’ve experienced sexual harassment in my life. As a sexual assault survivor as well, some of the news can be a bit triggery. Read More →

Our sexual differences make us grow and become more in our marriages.

This is the second in a series of posts in which I discuss six points husbands have expressed about the lack of sexual intimacy in their marriages. I first discussed these points in this post several years ago. Please read the introduction to this series here for background and a list of caveats.

This post discusses the second point: Your husband’s sexuality is God’s design.

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Chances are that you and your husband are not exactly alike in your sexuality. It is common in our culture to hear men’s sexuality disparaged: Why does he always want sex? Doesn’t he have any self-control? Or Why does he want us to do that [insert any sex act other than intercourse or position other than missionary]? He’s such a pervert.

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How does a hysterectomy affect your sex life? Third post of three-part series.

Disclaimer: Everything I say here is my personal opinion and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult your own doctor for information and advice.

This post is the third of a three-part series on sex after a hysterectomy. In Part 1: The Basics, I provided an overview of what a hysterectomy is and how it is done. In Part 2: The Aftermath, I talked about recovery, hormones, and emotions. In this post I’ll talk about your new sex life, post-hysterectomy.

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Most women do well with a hysterectomy—which is no consolation for women who experience a complication. Complications can range from temporary infections and fever on the mild end to permanent problems such as adhesions, pelvic floor prolapse, and nerve damage. Read More →

How will your wounds shape the heritage you pass along?

I’d intended for today’s post to be the final in my series about a hysterectomy after sex. I’m going to hold off on that until Friday because God has been nudging me to write about something else for today: how our own woundedness hurts others.

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Lovely links to help you grow your marriage!

It’s time for a Loveliness of Links from September! These blog posts are written by Christian women to can encourage you, convict you, uplift you, and acknowledge your situation as you pursue a good marriage, healthy and holy sexual intimacy, and healing and wholeness in God. Read More →

This second part of a three-part series on sex after a hysterectomy talks about recovery, hormones, and emotions.

Disclaimer: Everything I say here is my personal opinion and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult your own doctor for information and advice.

This post is the second of a three-part series on sex after a hysterectomy. In Part 1: The Basics, I provided an overview of what a hysterectomy is and how it is done. In this post, I’ll look at recovery from surgery and then move into the impact on our hormones and emotions. Next Tuesday’s post will focus on sex.

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A hysterectomy is not a walk in the park. During the months following the surgery, a woman has to navigate healing, hormonal changes, and often unexpected emotions as well. Read More →

This first part of a three-part series on sex after a hysterectomy gives basic information about what a hysterectomy is and how it is done.

In 2008, like around 500,000 other women in the U.S., I had a hysterectomy.

And just like probably every single one of those women did, I had a lot of questions: Is this the right decision? Will I regret it? Will I be able to handle the pain? What will the recovery be like? Read More →

Spend time with God to put your to-do list in perspective.

Fall is often a busy time for women. If you have children, the school year has begun and your life is filled with activities and schoolwork. I’m already seeing Christmas products and memes that remind me it’s only 94 days until Christmas. Lots of bloggers are publishing posts to help you get ahead of the busyness that is on the way. Read More →

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