How Growth Looks
The growth we cannot see is just as important as the growth that isn’t yet visible.
Getting Started
Is a Sex Hiatus a Good Idea?
If you’re trying to heal the sexual intimacy in your marriage, a brief hiatus from sex might be a step forward. If you’re just trying to avoid sex, though, a break can be harmful.
Healing at the Pool
When it comes to sexual intimacy, do you prefer to stay on the sidelines of your growth, willing to let God make some changes but not interested in doing much of the work yourself? If you want healing, you need to do your part and get yourself to the healing waters.
Giving Up
Hillsong’s Hosanna includes the lyrics “break my heart for what breaks yours.” I think of those words every time I receive a message from yet …
Conquer Your Complacency
Complacency keeps you mired in the pain of the past. Conquer your complacency. Choose to move forward and seek healing.
The Strong-Willed Woman
A wife who uses her strong will for her husband and her marriage is a blessing.
Untangle Your Mess
If sexual intimacy is tangled up with other issues in your life, you can begin to untangle the mess, one step at a time.
Be Strong and Courageous
You matter to God. Your marriage matters to God. A strong marriage gives us a picture of how Christ loves the church. It provides stability in the face of the inevitable storms of life. A strong marriage is worth every moment, every effort, and every prayer you give.
Can You Learn How to Have Sex (Again)?
You may know that you need to make some changes. You may have great intentions. But when sexy time arrives, those great intentions take you only so far in the face of those ingrained patterns of avoiding intimacy. How do you move from “I think I can, I think I can” to “mmm, this is lovely and amazing”? To those of us who’ve spent years avoiding sex, learning how to have sex again can be a big challenge. This post gives you some ideas to get you started.
Three Steps You Can Take to Work on Sex Right Now
If you’ve decided to work on the sexual intimacy in your marriage, that’s great! But where do you start? Here are three things you can try, all broken down into small do-able steps for you.
Do You Let Your Emotional Wounds Fester?
We all experience hurt in our marriages from time to time. I’ve moved! While you can peruse the archives here, I am no longer …
Stop the Power Struggle
Do you try to control your husband and your marriage? It’s time to let go of the power struggle! Focus on self-control instead.
Six Things to Know about Emotional Disconnection
I spend a lot of time here writing about our husbands. That grows out of my own experience. I’ve written about the difficult moment when …
Reach for Intimacy
If you’re in a hurting marriage without intimacy, begin where you are. Work on one thing you see in front of you. Reach out for intimacy.
The Power of “And”
When I was in fifth grade, I was part of the playground safety patrol at school. Before school and during recess, I got to …