One Year
If your husband thinks there’s a problem with sex in your marriage but you don’t, what would happen if you went along with his efforts for a year? How would your husband, you, and your marriage be different after that one year?
Getting Started
Trapped by Trauma
Past sexual trauma creates challenges in the marriage bed. Know that there is hope.
In the Raw
Crossroads in marriage sometimes are obvious; other times we don’t realize until after the fact that we made a decision that shaped the trajectory of our marriage. In the rawness of those moments, it isn’t always easy to see where we are going. In this post I share parts of a message I wrote to Big Guy during one of those raw moments when I was approaching what would turn out to be a crossroads.
How Do You Eat an Elephant?
The prospect of making sexual change can be daunting, but you don’t have to change everything at once. Just take it one step at a time.
Refusal Is Like . . .
In A Moment of Hard Truth, I shared with you the moment when I realized what my sexual refusing and gate-keeping had done to …
The Wife Who Day-Dreamed
With Christ, our marriage problems of the past were washed away, replacing the old marriage with one built on a solid foundation.
Face the Fear
Over the past fifteen months, I’ve frequently been asked why I decided to change how I approached sex. What I’ve often wondered, though, is …
He Only Wants Me for Sex
Do you feel like your husband only wants you for sex? What if what he really wants is . . . you?
How to Have Sex When You Don’t Really Feel Like It
Sometimes sex requires gymnastics—not during sex itself, but in my mind before I can even have sex. I’ve moved! While you can peruse the …
What Do You Know About Yourself?
My hair has thrown me into a tizzy. It has always been fine, with a little natural wave. By the time I was in junior …
What’s on Your Spreadsheet?
Do you know how often you and your husband have sex? If you say “no” on more than an occasional basis, my guess is …
Dear Sister
I’d love to sit down with you, with some coffee and a yummy treat, and just listen to why you struggle with sex. And then here’s what I might have to say.
The Power of One
You can’t make another person change, and that includes your spouse. Nonetheless, just one person has the power to begin the changes that might revitalize a marriage.
A Change of Habit
Step by step, I changed my approach to sex. Here’s what worked for me. Your own steps might look different from mine—but step by step, day by day, you can make changes in your own habits.
Accepted
My husband wanted just what I did—to be loved and accepted by me for who and what he was, including his need for sexual connection and value from him.