Take Up Your Mat
In John 5, Jesus tells the man at the pool to pick up his mat and go. What does this mean in our marriages? What do you need to do to accept the transformation God may already be making in your marriage?
Getting Started
You Reap What You Sow
You reap what you sow. You get out of it what you put into it. My decision to get a cheap motel room left a lot to be desired. I learned some lessons that can help you work on your marriage.
Silence the Lies
We hear so many lies about sex. How can we silence those lies and learn God’s truth about sex and sexuality in marriage?
Do Your Feelings Control Your Marriage?
I have all the feelings. You know the stereotype of women being so emotional? I am a perfect illustration of that stereotype. I’m emotional, I’m …
Journey of Change: Gate-keeper to Refuser and Back Again
Today is the second of three posts from Janna Allen (a pseudonym) in which she opens her life to us to share how the journey …
Journey of Change: In the Beginning
We walk different paths on the way to and from sexual gate-keeping and refusing. While I’ve shared much of my own story here, my story …
Make a Marriage Map
During my professor days, I would occasionally take a bunch of colored pencils, crayons, markers, and blank paper into the classroom and place them …
Why “Why” Matters
Dandelions are lovely little flowers, all full of sunshine and happiness—until they turn to seed. Then they become eyesores. They are considered weeds by …
Learning to Stretch
Last fall, I wrote about how I thought I was ready to start tackling my weight. I spent a lot of time after that …
To Turn Wailing into Dancing
I was struck this morning by these words from Psalm 30:11-12: You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with …
Beautiful?
Among the many things I wondered about during much of my marriage is whether I’ve been beautiful. Although I didn’t love the way I looked …
Time for a New Style
Years ago, I worked with a woman whose hair flowed down to her waist. The hair was about 50% gray, but she said her long …
A Moment of Hard Truth
At some point, between the refusing and gate-keeping on one end and the journey toward full intimacy on the other, there is a moment. …
My Walk
Cabin fever got to me this morning. Our family has had a series of vehicle repairs over the past two months, so my car has …
Climate Change
A habit of sexual repression and restriction rather than sexual expression and freedom took me to a point where I was expending more energy avoiding …