Five Years, Five Lessons
September 5, 2010, was a significant day in our marriage. It was the day my eyes were opened to the hurt my husband was experiencing …
Journey of Faith
The Little Girl Inside
Do you still carry a little girl inside you, one who learned negative lessons about herself as a child? Remember that your husband is not your father, or your grandfather, or your uncle, or any other man you knew as a little girl.
What’s In It for Me?
For years, the idea of making changes in sexual intimacy had evoked the question, What’s in it for me? It turned out that I benefited even more than my husband did!
Is Your Past Destroying Sex in Your Marriage?
I am delighted to have a guest post at Intimacy in Marriage this week as part of Julie’s What is Destroying Sex in Your …
Rebuilding Trust after My Husband Had an Addiction to Pornography
If you have discovered that your husband is addicted to pornography, the sense of betrayal you feel may be devastating. (See this article at Covenant …
Regret: When Someday Never Comes
When I stand before God and am held accountable for how I tended my marriage, instead of bringing nothing but years of excuses and fear and walls, I will be able to offer my repentance and gratitude for the work he has done in me that have enabled me to tend my marriage. When God asks you how you tended your marriage, what will you have to offer?
An Unmighty Fortress
“Why won’t you let me in?” “Why do you keep yourself from me?” “I want deep intimacy with you, but something is missing.” Big …
Teaching Your Husband to Be Trustworthy
One barrier many of us encounter in sexual intimacy is our inability to trust our husbands. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to understand …
Moving from Resentment to Forgiveness
The Bible tells us to forgive–but sometimes it isn’t so easy to do. I’ve moved! While you can peruse the archives here, I am …
The Family Bible, Sex, and the Closet
We are preparing to move, and sorting through family memorabilia can make me feel a bit melancholy. I have so many decisions about what …
Your Husband’s Healing
If sex has been a source of tension in your marriage, it’s likely to take a while to restore your sexual relationship to a …
Waves of Healing
For me, healing has been a journey—and not always an easy one. My experience with the healing of sexual intimacy in my marriage has …
Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women?
In A Shaded View of Romance, I stated that sexy novels are comparable to porn: They create unrealistic expectations (of both relationships and sex). …
Powerless to Change?
Do you feel powerless to make changes in your marriage? Think again about who is with you.
A Shaded View of Romance
The emotional connection portrayed in romance novels distorted my view of romance and had a negative effect on my marriage.