Learning to Dance with Desire
Is there anything you can do if your husband says he just wants results and doesn’t believe you’re actually making any progress in the area of sex? This post shows you some thoughts to help you as well as some actions to help your husband.
When you’re working on your sexual struggles, it’s easy to be overwhelmed and feel like you aren’t making any progress. Be sure to pay attention to what you’ve already accomplished instead of just looking at what is still in front of you.
Even if you aren’t quite ready to work on sex in your marriage, there are still some things you can do to move forward.
It doesn’t matter where you begin your journey to work on sex. If you want to make progress, start with God, seek help, and do the work in front of you.
Take a moment to celebrate how much progress you’ve made in your journey to address sexual intimacy in your marriage.
Sometimes moving slowly leads to a better outcome. Progress is progress, even if it’s slow.
If you aren’t ready to take the next step, do one thing to move yourself toward the next step in your journey.
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Don’t stop at good enough. Aim for the good that God has prepared for you.
The growth we cannot see is just as important as the growth that isn’t yet visible.
Discouragement on the journey to improve sexual intimacy is normal. Most of us hit stumbling blocks, wonder if our efforts will ever pay off, experience frustration as things don’t work or seem harder, and struggle with a husband’s reaction (or lack of reaction) to our work. For each area of discouragement you experience on your journey, see if there a new way to understand it so it can become a source of encouragement instead.
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It is so easy to focus on what the other person is doing—or not doing—that we forget that our job is to look at ourselves. How do I know this? I know because it is still a struggle for me. We are accountable to God for being a good wife. I am responsible for working on my own growth. We don’t have to do all the work—but we need to be sure to do our share.
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