One Step Forward
If you aren’t ready to take the next step, do one thing to move yourself toward the next step in your journey.
Getting Started
Repair. Replace. Recalculate. Rejoice.
If you are beginning to work on your marriage, you may be frustrated by the necessary changes. Have hope, and keep making the effort.
If You Make Just One Change, . . .
Are you willing to make just one change in your marriage? Do this: Believe that emotional and relationship are at the heart of your husband’s sexual desire for you.
The Big Bad Wolf
I am not a dog whisperer. As a small child, I was jumped on by a dog that either scratched or bit me. I don’t …
Happy Anniversary
Today is our anniversary, and I am happy in my marriage. I am happy in my marriage. I’ve moved! While you can peruse the archives …
From Insecurity to Authenticity
When you are full of insecurity and have low self-esteem, it isn’t easy to do what is necessary to have a healthy, functional marriage. …
Remember Whose Daughter You Are
A meme has been going around Facebook that has stuck in my mind: “Whenever you feel overwhelmed, remember whose daughter you are and straighten …
How Does He React When He Hears “No”?
A negative reaction from your husband may not help you grow in the area of sexual intimacy, but approaching his reaction with a heart of compassion and understanding can take away some of the sting.
To Duty Sex—and Beyond!
Duty sex done well can play a role in the journey toward true intimacy in our marriages—as long as we don’t stop there.
Walk Toward Repentance
Note: If your husband is in unrepentant and on-going sin against you, if you are in an intentional season of healing that requires you …
Weary with the Sorrow of Loneliness
From middle school into adulthood, my best friends and I grew from girlhood into womanhood together. In high school, my friends always seemed to have …
Is It a Miracle?
Are you waiting for a miracle in your marriage? God can and does perform miracles (just ask any diehard Cubs fan!)—and when we do the hard work, we are participating in that miraculous transformation.
Making Sexual Changes: Your First Step
So far in this Making Sexual Changes series, I’ve talked about understanding how we got to the beginning of this journey of change and …
Making Sexual Changes: Swimming into the Waters of Change
This is the second of a three-part series about how to begin to make changes in sexual intimacy in your marriage. Some of us …
Making Sexual Changes: What Is Your Story?
I hear from many women about how they came to decide to work on sexual intimacy in their marriages. Not a single one has ever …