Happy Anniversary

Happy anniversary to Big Guy and me!

Today is our anniversary, and I am happy in my marriage.

I am happy in my marriage.

For many years, this was not the case. I dreaded our anniversary. Why celebrate when our marriage clearly wasn’t good? And every year I would think, I suppose I’ll have to have sex. (This would usually involve a huge mental sigh.)

The fact that I smile as I say it is our anniversary seems something of a miracle. Ten years ago, I wouldn’t have believed it was possible. Then again, ten years ago, I wasn’t even sure we would still be married at this point.

We were arguing all the time. We barely spent time in any room together, much less the bedroom. I felt unloved. Uncherished.

Does that sound familiar?

If you are a woman who feels like her anniversary is a false celebration, or who dreads her anniversary because of sexual obligation, I want to encourage you to know that something different is possible.

How you feel today doesn’t have to dictate your future.

If you want your marriage to be different, then make it different. Take a step toward a brighter future for your marriage. Whether you do baby steps or huge leaps, take a step. And then take another. And then another.

Keep on moving, and know that one person can make a difference.

Some day, perhaps you, too, will be happy in your marriage and truly enjoy your anniversary.

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13 Comments on “Happy Anniversary”

  1. Congratulations! May God continue to bless your union (and your website). You, and your fellow Christian marriage bloggers, have truly blessed me. Thank you for your courage and tenacity in keeping on…

  2. Happy Anniversary you two crazy kids! I’m so glad you are walking forward hand in hand.

    “If you want your marriage to be different, then make it different!” Truer words were never spoken!

  3. Congratulations to you, both!! May the rest of your years together be even more happy than the recent past years have been. “You’ve come a long way, baby,” so the saying goes. Take pride in your accomplishments, Chris. You and Big Guy deserve it.

    Big Guy, your wife took on a huge undertaking and, with God’s grace, she has transformed herself into not only the wife you want and need, but also into a role-model for other women seeking, finding, using, and crediting a better marriage/relationship with their husbands/partners by seeking God’s direction and understanding.

    Chris, that you actively chose to find a way to better yourself and come to terms with your past, to see how your past baggage was being a big roadblock to marital happiness and to actually take the time and effort to examine your issues through prayer and introspection, speaks volumes to your desire to really do everything you could to save your marriage. For that, I salute you and say a prayer of gratitude to God’s Spirit for His moving in you and Big Guy.

    You’re an inspiration to so many, Chris; men as well as women, myself included.

    Continued blessings on you both and may you have many, many more celebrations of happy years together!


  4. This mirrors my own marriage — so unhappy at one point, but we — with God’s help — we made changes and now enjoy a happy marriage. Congratulations on your anniversary!

  5. I know I’m late to the party but congratulations. You truly inspire me and gave me hope when I had none. That’s an adorable picture of you and your hubby by the way.

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