Perfect Failure
Is perfectionism failing you? My approach was that I would rather fail for lack of trying than try and do something less than perfectly.
Getting Started
“I Promise I’ll Do Better”
I really meant it. Every single time. Even when I thought my sexual refusing and gate-keeping were justified, I knew my husband was hurting. …
Leaving a Sexless Marriage
When I was a child, we lived next door to an elderly couple around the age of 90. Several years ago, my mom mentioned …
Rock Your World
Even in the midst of slow progress, one giant step to move you to a whole new place—and that just might rock your whole world.
Serenity
Most of my marriage was pretty stormy. My husband and I would snipe at each other. We would lash out. We would yell. We would …
A Better Marriage in 2014
With a new year around the corner, a lot of us are thinking about changes we can make in our lives. Many of us think …
An Extraordinary Woman
Courage is pressing forward when you feel afraid because you believe in something that is more important than fear.
Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex
I recently wrote that how you see your husband may be shaped by what you learned about men during childhood. We carry other negative …
How Not to Think About Sex
How can you think about sex in a way that helps you look forward to your next sexual encounter with your husband?
Keeper of the Gate
I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Learning the Song of Songs, in real life. When you’re a sexual gatekeeper, you’re missing out on much of the lovely sexual garden God has given to you.
Seasons of Generosity
Sexual generosity doesn’t look the same in all seasons of growth.
Peace and Fireworks
Are you frustrated because you aren’t experiencing orgasm? You are not alone.
The Wrong Message
It’s like seeing my own ghost. Over the past week, in emails to me and comments on various blogs, I’ve seen the woman I …
Sex Is a Rock
Do you remember the first time you saw an erect penis? I do. I thought, “That thing is huge! No way is it going …
You Go First
If you are unhappy, chances are that your husband is, too. And chances are that both of you need to make some changes. Stop waiting for your husband to take the first step. Someone needs to go first, and it might as well be you.