The Unbroken Woman blog is hosting The Respect Dare. Starting July 10, participants will be using Nina Roesner’s The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband as a guide, posting about their journey. And I will be doing it with you!
Hallelujah! I totally rock this Dare! Husbands need to feel desired by their wives. I wrote about this a couple months ago in “I Want You.” My husband has absolutely no question that I desire him and want to have sex with him, frequently.
I even liked answering the questions in this Dare.
Am I comfortable initiating sex with my husband? Why or why not? Yes, because I love him and desire him and even when sex isn’t great, it’s good.
Have I ever initiated sex? When was the last time? Three times so far this week, including tonight–but he doesn’t know it yet. 🙂 (I ended up in urgent care with a horrible UTI and will probably be out of commission for a couple days in terms of having or expressing any desire.
If I have initiated sex in the past, how did my husband respond? How shall I say this? Um, with manly vigor? Yeah, that will work.
Why do I think I don’t initiate sex more frequently? I don’t want to break him. Seriously, I’ve been busy trying to get busy this week, but we’ll also go through stretches where I know he’s tired and I don’t want him to feel pressured.
What would indicate that I’ve made improvements in this area? According to Big Guy, no improvements are needed. J
It’s difficult for many women to understand how our sexual desire and response speak to our husbands. I think about a time recently when my husband came to where I was sitting on the front porch and offered to have a conversation about nothing in particular. “I missed you and thought it might be nice to just talk for a while.” It meant so much to me that he initiated a conversation–but I knew he was doing it for my sake and not because he wanted to have a conversation with me. But I don’t think a comparison to conversation quite captures it.
The closest I could come to initiating a few years ago was a quiet, “We could have sex if you wanted to.” Oh, how things have changed. Last month, I sent my husband a text message telling him I needed him to get upstairs to be my personal sex slave right away.
As my husband has dealt with employment ups and downs and has felt undesirable professionally many times, my desire for him as a man has been therapeutic. Ladies, go offer your husband some healing.
Meanwhile, I’m going to sit here and keep doing a happy dance because I got one right!
Read these other bloggers to learn about their experiences with the Respect Dare:
The Respect Dare Blog (author Nina Roesner)