Eye candy is something that is visually appealing, with just a dollop of sexy thrown into the mix. If your husband is like most guys, seeing you be sexy is the best eye candy possible.
Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look at the Song of Songs 4:1-5:
Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young.
Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil.
Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors.
Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies.
The bridegroom in the Song of Songs enjoyed looking at his bride, just as your husband likely loves to look at you–so let your man look to his heart’s content.
There’s plenty you can do to give your man some awesome visuals. Here are 13 things you can do to fill your husband’s mind with sexy images of you—all without even having sex.
- Tease him while you’re changing clothes. Lean over to get something out of the drawer. Take your time. Caress yourself as you remove an item of clothing.
- Flash him. Do it long enough of him to really look, or do it just quickly enough to tease him.
- Surprise him by removing an item of clothing before you walk into the room (or before he walks in).
- When you catch him looking, jiggle on purpose. (Yes, even if you don’t like the jiggling, he does.)
- Let him see you in sexy underwear on his way out the door in the morning.
- When you lean over to empty the dishwasher or pull something out of the oven, linger . . . and maybe shake your booty.
- Apply temporary tattoos that tease him.
- Have a glass shower door? Press your breasts against the glass when he comes in to brush his teeth while you’re in the shower.
- Stretch luxuriously and slowly.
- Go braless when he doesn’t expect it. Give him a peek or a feel to be sure he knows that you have a whole lot of nothing going on under your top.
- “Accidentally” spill water on your t-shirt while you aren’t wearing anything underneath it. Instant wet t-shirt contest. You win!
- Wear an apron while you’re cooking. Wear ONLY an apron.
- Wear an oversized tank top as a dress around the house. You know those huge arm holes? Yeah, eye candy right there.
This weekend, give your husband an eyeful. Be his eye candy.
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Wearing a loose fitting blouse, leaning over to kiss me and allowing me to catch a glimpse of her breasts gets me every time.
Combining the visual with the kiss is definitely a good idea!
Any suggestions for getting him to notice these things?
I wish I did. So many men are visually oriented and love the sight of their wives being sexy for them. Do you know why he doesn’t notice when you do these things?
In my marriage, I resisted sex so much that my husband learned there was no point in noticing; he would just be frustrated. Or, he noticed but was just not to let me know that he did. He used his peripheral vision and said nothing to me. Not too long ago, I was sure my husband wasn’t noticing–but it turned out that he still hasn’t gotten entirely used to being allowed to look.
Understanding the reason your husband doesn’t notice (or doesn’t appear to) might give you some ideas as to how to get him to notice. For instance, if this is a rather recent development and you suspect he has low testosterone, he may want to avoid giving you any suggestion that he might be interested in sex, for fear he can’t perform.
I guess the only suggestion I have is to ask him why he doesn’t seem to notice.
I’m in the same boat. {hug}
I told my wife that seeing her naked is like taking in a long cool refreshing drink of water with my eyes. She replied, “So your eyes don’t scream in agony” She just doesn’t understand how I can find her 53 year old body attractive. 🙁 We’ve been married 30 years and I still get butterflies in my stomach when she faces me, crosses her arms, grabs the hem of her shirt and takes it off over her head.
I don’t understand, either, but I choose to believe.
Its a bit of a bummer if your a visual wife with a shy husband. I very much doubt I am the only one. He does try but at times you have to deal with just flashes of him when he jumps out of the shower!
Maybe you could print the list out for him? 🙂
Too funny and too true. Ladies, we men really aren’t that hard to figure out. 🙂 Teasing and turning on your spouse? – who knows where *that* could lead! (Hint: only good places!) Kudos for a great, and light-hearted, post.
Sorry to reply to myself – wanted to suggest that perhaps it might inspire your real audience if you had a separate thread for husbands to post the kind of things that do (or would) be attractive/appealing/arousing – within tasteful terms – in the comments. Or maybe it’d just get out of control/NSFW – your call!
I am not so concerned about NSFW-type suggestions. What I am concerned about is overwhelming women who are still trying to learn to be sexually generous. Even coming from a woman, my suggestions can be quite overwhelming. A woman who has avoided any hint of sexiness with her husband is likely to be challenged in reading just one or two items on my list. If I let men go crazy with all the things they would find appealing, it would just be too much–and it would cement the idea that all husbands are interested in is sex.
A few tasteful comments on this post are fine, but I’m less concerned about giving women an exhaustive list and more concerned about encouraging them to do something they aren’t yet comfortable with.
Great list! I love your comment about jiggling. It really is true ladies! 🙂
My husband tells me it’s true, so I believe it–even though I just don’t get it. 🙂
I think you are correct that husband who has been teased/refused/controlled for a long time will be very reluctant to respond. In fact it may produce a negative “Pavlovian” reaction in response to past pain. If you are changing, let him know, and give him time to adjust, just as you require.
This also might explain the husband’s response to the “undress reveal” of a not-so-perfect 53 year-old body – great memories and association n his mind of love and affection trump everything else.