Today’s post is from Dr. Swtfeet, who shares with us about her husband’s interest in her feet and how that has become something she enjoys as much as he does. She shows us how being open-minded can open up new routes to intimacy and pleasure for her as well as for him. Learning to step outside her comfort zone (barefoot, of course) opened an unexpected and new world of pleasure for her.
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Early in our marriage I started to notice that my husband was always willing to massage my feet and always commenting on my pedicures. After a while it was rather easy to tell that he was getting excited when he would massage my feet. Later on he would make cute comments about my feet when I walked around the house barefoot, which was most of the time since I hate wearing shoes. Then I started to notice that he wasn’t too crazy about me walking outside barefoot. I don’t remember exactly how we started talking about my feet and his affection for them, but eventually it became clear that we needed to.
We eventually started having the first of many conversations about his attraction to my feet, but to be honest, I don’t remember how the first one started or who started it. I had taken quite a few psychology classes in high school and College, so I had learned some things about foot fetishes and other body part fetishes and partialisms. After taking many of those classes, I had come to the correct conclusion that there was nothing wrong with a fetish or partialism as long as it didn’t hurt either partner.
When my husband first told me that he had a foot fetish, my first reaction was, “okay, no problem. I don’t mind.” Like I said, I knew that fetishes and partialisms were fine as long as it both partners were okay with it, but I soon realized that there were many activities that I would have to get comfortable with. One of these was giving him a footjob to completion. I soon learned that I just wasn’t quite comfortable yet with him climaxing on my feet. During the first few times I tried giving my husband a footjob, just before he reached his climax, I would try to pull my feet away. This was frustrating for him for obvious reasons. After a few unsuccessful attempts, we talked about it and how it wasn’t satisfying his needs but also how we could change things so that I could work on getting comfortable with it. After these open and honest discussions, we decided that the compromise would be for him to wear a condom while I performed the footjob. That worked great for a while and soon my husband was enjoying my feet while I started to get comfortable with the notion of feet for sex. After a few months, my comfort level had risen so significantly that eventually I stopped asking him to wear the condom and allowed him to climax on my feet every time. Both of us were happy with this outcome, especially my husband.
At first, I gave my husband a footjob as a special thank you for an awesome foot massage. It was also a unique way to be close to him and satisfy his need for foot attention. If I wasn’t up for sex that night, giving him a footjob was a perfect way to take care of his needs. Then as our foot activities evolved, I started to discover that I craved giving him a footjob as much as he did. My comfort level soon rose so much that if I went for a period of time without using my feet, I started to crave giving him a footjob. Eventually, I came to realize that I was just as much into involving my feet as he was and I also yearned for him to lavish his attention onto my feet.
I am and always have been a very open minded person. To prepare myself, I would just remind myself that it was something special that only I could give my husband. I really didn’t think about what I was doing to prepare for it, instead I just wanted to do it because I loved my husband more than anything and I wanted to please him. And like I said before, he would always give me an exceptionally great foot massage either before or after our special ‘foot’ time, so as far as I was concerned it was a mutually satisfying experience.
Our marriage is a lot stronger since we have incorporated my feet into our sex life. Footjobs were our bedroom activity of choice when I was pregnant with our 3 kids since there were many times that I was just too uncomfortable to have traditional sex. But with footjobs and foot sex, I could still have that intimate closeness with my husband while I was pregnant. When my husband suffered through some medical issues, there were times when traditional sex was just not possible. Again Foot sex was a good alternative and it kept our sex life very active. I also came to believe that involving my feet in our sex life was a close bond that only the both of us knew that we had. It was like giving my husband my virginity, but it was only something that I could give my husband and it was our special secret.
Now many years later, if my husband hits the right spot on my feet during a footjob or foot sex, I am likely to get an orgasm from it as well. The sensation of rubbing my feet or parts of my feet on him ushers in a bond that you can’t get any other way but through intercourse
Over the years, my husband and I have quite a bit of research on foot fetishes and foot partialisms. It surprised me how deeply rooted in ancient history foot fetishism was and I was also surprised to learn that there are over 7000 nerve endings in each foot and I believe that foot sex helps stimulate those nerve endings.
I personally think that if your husband is attracted to your feet you can only strengthen your marital bond by trying to satisfy him and as I have shown, it will also benefit you. Ultimately, we took it slow, communicated and researched it together. I am happy to report that there are a lot of different ways to give your spouse a footjob and many ways to involve feet in your sex life. You merely have to be willing open your mind and take off your shoes!
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