It’s time for a Loveliness of Links from last month!
Just like a loveliness of ladybugs all working can help cultivate a healthy garden, a loveliness of blog posts can help you cultivate a healthy—and intimate—marriage.
Enjoy these great posts from March.
- 25 Reasons God Made Sex Real Good, Bonny’s OysterBed7
- 3 Ways to Improve Sex in Your Marriage Now, Intimacy in Marriage
- 4 Healing Ways to Pray for Your Marriage, Messy Marriage
- 4 Kinds of “Yeast” Your Marriage Needs, Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
- 5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women, Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
- 5 Ways to Love Your Husband Through Infertility, To Love, Honor & Vacuum
- 5 Ways to Treat Yourself Like a Friend – Self Care Strategies for Busy Women, Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
- Come to Me, Awaken-Love
- Finding God Outside the Walls of Marriage, Intentional Today
- His Choice for the Day, The Generous Wife
- It’s About the Heart, Awaken-Love
- More Time for Bedtime, The Generous Wife
- My Husband Isn’t Everything I Dreamed Of, Transformed Wife,
- Paying Attention to the Nudges, The Romantic Vineyard
- Q&A with J: Is It Possible to Have a Great Marriage (and Sex) Long Term? Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Solve the Stressors, The Generous Wife
- Stop “Hooking up” in Your Marriage, Authentic Intimacy
- The Beauty of a Crimson Stained Marriage, The Romantic Vineyard
- The High Maintenance Wife: Why She’s a Great Idea, Intentional Today
- What If God Really Meant For Us to Have Freedom in the Bedroom? To Love, Honor & Vacuum
- When You Don’t Know What to Pray for Your Marriage, Hot, Holy & Humorous
- While You’re Both Waiting – Love, Encourage Your Spouse
Alone in the car for a long drive recently, I turned on the radio to find some music that would help me stay alert.
I landed on a classic oldies station (meaning every single song was something from my youth).
Once I got the hang of not refusing, I was on a roll. No more “no” for me!
In some ways, it was easy—and got easier with time. Many of the reasons I used to have for refusing had evaporated. As I met my husband’s emotional needs through sexual attention, it became easier for him to give me the emotional attention that I needed—and that made it easier for me to be sexual with him.
“No” was out of my vocabulary, and as our relationship healed, I didn’t miss it at all.
My decision to work on the sexual intimacy in my marriage was made at the moment I realized how deeply I’d been hurting my husband throughout years of sexual rejection, duty sex, disrespect, and making him a low priority in my life.
It is probably the least self-centered decision I’ve made in my life. At the time, I had only a vague idea of how to proceed. “Have more sex” was about all I could come up with at the time. Since we had an essentially sexless marriage, even once-a-month sex on a consistent basis would be an improvement—and just the thought of that overwhelmed me. Read More →
My wedding vows were easy to say. When I married Big Guy, I promised, “ I take you, [Big Guy], to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
It was an easy promise to say. It wasn’t such an easy promise to keep. Read More →
Your heart has softened, and you’ve begun to understand how much your refusal has hurt your husband.
You’ve decided to change your approach to sexual intimacy, with a goal of no more refusing. You know that your husband receives your love best through sex, and you’re determined to make sure he knows you love him. Read More →
A recent conversation with a friend reminded me of how overwhelming it can be to face the need to work on sexual intimacy in our marriages.
When we are in a habit of withholding sex from our husbands—no matter why the habit began or whether we’ve even been aware of it—the challenge can be daunting. Read More →
Four years ago, I was beginning to see that our marriage was not at all in a good place. My husband and I were having another argument about sex. There were so many arguments, with each of us on opposite sides. It’s your fault. No, it’s yours. You need to change. You’re the one who thinks it’s a problem so you need to change. Back and forth, we went, pitted against each other. Read More →