A Loveliness of Links ~ October
It’s time for a Loveliness of Links from last month! Just as a loveliness of ladybugs all working together can help cultivate a healthy garden, …
Tag: marriage
The Right to “No”
An individual “no” isn’t a problem; the cumulative effect of “no” after “no” after “no” is a problem.
The Grief of a Wife Who Used to Say No
The decision I made to work on sexual intimacy began with a decision to give up my desires. This journey included a lot of grief. In return, I received far more than I gave up.
A Stumble Is Not a Defeat
Don’t feel discouraged when you stumble. Reboot yourself, dust yourself off, and resume your journey.
How Do You Eat an Elephant?
The prospect of making sexual change can be daunting, but you don’t have to change everything at once. Just take it one step at a time.
The Enemy of Marriage: When I Switched Sides
Four years ago, I was beginning to see that our marriage was not at all in a good place. My husband and I were having …
The Enemy of Marriage: Pointing Fingers
It’s nice to have an enemy. For Inigo Montoya in The Princess Bride, having an enemy gave his life so much purpose and focus that …
The Enemy of Marriage: Sneaky Beginnings
The Enemy is a crafty one. He tempted Eve, twisting the truth and telling her lies. He wants to separate us from God. He goes …
The Best Kind of Romance
When I first heard the song “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers,” I hadn’t yet had a real kiss or a boyfriend—but I thought it was …
Make a Marriage Map
During my professor days, I would occasionally take a bunch of colored pencils, crayons, markers, and blank paper into the classroom and place them …
I Want . . .
A refusing and gate-keeping wife faces challenges when she changes her approach to intimacy. She has to change her behavior, her words, her body language, …
Marriage-scaping
Our house was built in 1968, and whoever did the landscaping was most definitely not thinking about the mature versions of our trees and shrubs. We …
When Your Husband Is Unwell
When my husband is ill, he wants me to take care of him—and for the most part, I enjoy doing so. I’ll soothe his …
Why Sleeping Together Is Awesome
When my twins were pre-teens, they came home from a school field trip one day, completely exhausted. They lay down on the couch, heads at …
Turn Your Heart Toward Home
Our hearts can be drawn away from our marriages and our husbands if we are not careful. What interferes with our focus and keeps our hearts from turning toward home?