My daughter took a sweet picture of Big Guy and me this week.
Every day, my husband calls me when he is on his way home from work so we can catch each other up on our days. When he comes home, I stop what I am doing and welcome him home with a kiss and a long hug.
The other day, I greeted him outside as I had something for him to put in his truck. We stood together outside the back door while I told him about a cool God thing that had happened earlier in the day.
His arm was around me. (Technically, his hand was resting on my rear end.) I had my hand on his shoulder. It was one of those perfectly ordinary moments that we experience so often that we are barely aware of them.
My daughter saw us. She got out her phone, took the picture, and had it posted on Facebook before we came back inside.
She said that she took the picture because it’s sweet how we are together. We talk on the phone, and then we still spend time with each other.
It warms my heart to know that she sees our relationship as a sweet one with our daily connection and pleasure in each other’s company.
Our kids have all shared with us the unhappiness their friends have expressed at the state of their parents’ marriages. They’ve told of dads who sleep on the couch every night, parents who speak to each other only to argue or exchange grocery or to-do lists, a lack of any physical contact, and largely separate lives. They see little affection and no companionship in their parents. It isn’t too different than the marriage we once had.
My mind flashes back to a time about eight years ago. My daughter said that it seemed like Big Guy and I never spent time with each other. She wanted to know why we were married—because she saw nothing in our relationship that would explain that for her.
At that time, I had no answer for her. I often wondered myself why we were married. “Sweet” was just about the last word I would have applied to our marriage.
Now, however, my daughter no longer asks us about our marriage—because our relationship is visible—and good—to her.
She took the picture because, she said, it perfectly captures the marriage she sees in us all the time. It is a good picture of us being us.
I encourage you to think about what those close to you see in your marriage. Consider the many ordinary moments you and your husband experience. If you and your husband were observed standing together in conversation, would you be touching? If you were standing with your arms around each other, would it be viewed as just an ordinary thing or as a rare occasion?
How sweet are the perfectly ordinary moments in your marriage?
A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul . . . Proverbs 13:19