Do you ever think your sex life could be better if you had just a bit more imagination?
Let my imagination help you out!
10 ways to initiate sex, tease your husband, and enjoy sex
- Install an app on both your phones that you can use to enhance intimacy. Consider Ultimate Intimacy, Couple, or both! (Make sure you both use password protection.) Ultimate Intimacy will give you plenty of ideas, and Couple lets you communicate about those ideas privately.
- Lay out two sexy underthing choices on your bed, take pictures of them, and send the pictures to your husband. Ask him to choose what you should be wearing when he gets back home.
- Stock up on Red Hots or Altoids to use while you’re giving oral sex. They can give a little extra tingle!
- Get some streamers. Before your husband comes home, lay them on the floor from your door to some non-bedroom location in the house, where you will be waiting for him naked on a pile of blankets . . .
- . . . or wrap them around your body so he watches you become more and more naked as he unwraps you.
- Close the blinds. Ask him to sit down and watch you cook dinner. Excuse yourself to run to the bathroom, where you remove your clothing and put only an apron on. Do all your cooking work wearing only the apron, no touching allowed. Make sure you do lots of bending. Ask him to open a stubborn jar, and when he does, give him a peek. No touching until after dinner.
- Have kids at home? Ask your husband to help you in the bathroom. Offer a just-for-him quickie.
- In the morning, give him a written “menu” of at least three things you’d like to include in a sexual encounter later in the day. Make sure to include at least one thing that he knows you enjoy.
- Tear a sheet of paper into nine pieces. On three pieces, write down different locations in your home where you can have sex. On three other pieces of paper, write down clothing or costume options that you could wear for sex. On the remaining pieces, write down sex props that you have (such as a wedge pillow, vibrator, flavored lube, etc.). Then have your husband draw one piece of paper from each group. You know how in the game of Clue, you identify who did it, in what location, and with what weapon? This would be similar, only you identify where you’ll do it, what you’ll be wearing, and what you’ll use.
- Approach your husband for sex when you’re fully dressed. Remove only the clothing that is absolutely necessary.
What ideas would you like to add to the list? Share them in the comments!
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Hmm, in which life and which world would any of this work, sadly not in mine. The distance between us after 32 years is getting greater. Sad!
If the distance between you is worsening, then lack of creativity is not the problem. I’m sorry you are experiencing that.
Yea, tried but the shocked look on his face like I had suck him with a Red hot poker so sad
Some things work better when you give advance warning, I guess.
Believe me! These would work with most men.
I had my husband check the list to be sure the ideas would work.
Chris, Oh! I like these ideas! Especially the red hots or altoids, I hadn’t thought of those. I think my husband would prefer the altoids 😉
My favorite tip is one that works great even with children around. I simply have to look at my husband and tell him I’m going to take a shower. That’s it! But he knows it is an invitation to shower together, and somehow I always end up extra clean afterwards! LOL ~ Johanna
It’s so great to have a code that you can use around kids. Thanks for sharing!
I found a little bell that says Ring for a Blow Job. Ever once in a while I’ll ring it. He sure makes him take notice.
Great idea!