God designed us to be sexual and to enjoy sexual intimacy with our husbands–yet so many of us struggle with sexuality.
We often carry sexual wounds and brokenness into our marriages.
Our wounds come from other people’s actions against us. They result from our own choices. They grow out of what we observed in our families of origin and what we’ve absorbed from our culture. We face health challenges and difficult life circumstances. We encounter difficulties in our marriage relationships.
All these things can flavor our sexual intimacy with pain, struggle, sadness, and shame. Wounds and brokenness can make it difficult for us to be fully naked and fully unashamed with our husbands.
How can we restore what was lost or broken? When we experience a life change, how can we integrate a “new normal” into our sexual intimacy?
How can we move past our wounds and our brokenness? How can we pursue healing? How can we seek wholeness?
You Are Not Alone
We often struggle in silence and solitude. We don’t know who to talk to to get support—or if we do, we don’t know how to talk about it. When we know our circumstances won’t change, we wonder if support would even do any good. Maybe we think we don’t deserve to feel healed and whole, so we don’t even try.
The journey of healing and wholeness can be daunting, and we often feel all alone on that journey.
We don’t have to be alone.
Other women have walked similar journeys as we have—and they can show us the way.
When other women share their stories with us, it becomes easier to feel that we are not alone. Other women’s stories shine a light into the darkness of the pain, struggle, and brokenness. Their stories invite us to take our own steps forward on a path that is now well-lit, with a beacon of hope that we didn’t have before.
Sexual Healing and Wholeness Series
As I shared with you at the beginning of the year, I want to encourage you all to pursue sexual healing and wholeness this year.
In order to bring you stories that will invite you forward in healing, I have invited other women bloggers to share their own stories in a Sexual Healing and Wholeness Series. These wonderful women will be opening their hearts to help yours. Expect to see these posts throughout the year. Some of them may have blogs you already read, but I expect you’ll see some new names and faces as well.
My prayer with this series is two-fold. First, I hope you will see a path toward your own healing and find the courage to take some steps. Second, I want you to meet some other amazing Christian women. You may find that their blogs offer just the encouragement you need as you move forward.
As you meet these women here and read stories that resonate with your own, I think you will see that there is hope—and you will know that you are not alone.
Their stories will be an invitation and an encouragement to you to take a step forward in your own journey toward healthy and whole sexual intimacy.
A Special Invitation to Wives Taking Their First Steps
Are you just beginning to work on sexual intimacy in your marriage?
I avoided and resisted sex for many years in my marriage. I continue to grow in the pursuit of enjoying sexual intimacy in my marriage. I enjoy the pursuit now—but that wasn’t always the case.
At the very beginning, I wasn’t sure I even wanted to be on this journey. I didn’t think it was possible for me to learn to enjoy sexual intimacy. I had no idea how to deal with the issues that had become barriers in my marriage bed.
If you are starting to work on sexual issues that have been weighing you down, I invite you to be part of a special group on Facebook. Maybe you are in need of sexual healing and wholeness, or maybe you just got out of the habit of sex and aren’t sure how to get back on track.
The Forgiven Wife First Steps group is for wives who are just getting started. It is a secret group, so only other group members will know you are part of it. Your posts won’t be visible to your Facebook friends.
Because it is a secret group, I will need to send you an invitation by email.
To request group membership, send me an email at email@example.com from the email address associated with your Facebook account. To help me be sure the group will be a good fit for you, please answer these questions: 1) How long have you been married? 2) What is your biggest struggle when it comes to sex? and 3) Why do you want to work on sex?
I will add other groups later, but I want to start with this one because it so close to my heart.
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