During the time in my life when my friends and I were getting married, our preparations included thinking about foundation garments—underclothing that helps shape a woman’s figure and provides a foundation for the clothing. I always thought of foundation garments as nothing more than uncomfortable underwear.
One of the changes that my husband has seen—literally—is a shift in my undies. In the days when I wanted to discourage any thoughts about sex, I thought of underwear as a line of defense against his sexual advances. All my panties came in packages from discount stores. My bras were always white or beige. Boring and unappealing—which was the whole point. After all, my husband was the only one who ever saw them, and I certainly didn’t want to encourage him to look too much.
As I was putting laundry away the other day, I took a good look at my underwear drawer. It was overflowing. How did that happen? I’m not an underwear addict, after all. I still have all the boring stuff from before in there, but I noticed that there was a lot more color in that drawer of drawers.
I have started a collection of cute and sexy undies, with bras that actually are just a bit eye-popping. Jungle print, bright pink, navy, bright polka dots, silky black, you name it. My husband is still the only one who ever sees it. The difference is that now I want him to look. I want to draw his eyes to me. I want him to look at me and think about sex.
My underwear selection is a symbol, a foundation, of my attitude toward sex. When I wore ugly undies and boring bras, it was setting the tone for the sexual aspect of our marriage—ugly, boring, disengaged. As I opened myself to sexual joy, the new kaleidoscope of my underwear drawer set the tone, too—adventurous, colorful, rich, engaged, hot.
It is fair to say that my underwear is an outward and visible (but only to my husband) sign of an inward and spiritual change.
What does your underwear say about the sexual state of your marriage?
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