The Unbroken Woman blog is hosting The Respect Dare. Starting July 10, participants will be using Nina Roesner’s The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband as a guide, posting about their journey. And I will be doing it with you!
I’ve spent much of my life trying to figure out who I am. In my professional life, I’ve written mission statements. This Dare is sort of a mash-up of those two things.
For Dare 4, I’m supposed to write a positive purpose statement using the Dare 3 assessment. Wait—not all areas of marriage were covered in that assessment. Where was sex? Where was any physical affection or relating to anyone at all? There were all these other areas, but nothing about being physically present with anyone. Is this me being stubborn? Is this me being a sex blogger and seeing through that perspective? (Wow, did I really just write that I’m a sex blogger? That sounds so edgy. I’m not edgy. Am I really a sex blogger? Well, after a series on oral sex, I guess I am. But I digress.)
“[W]rite a positive, present-tensed purpose statement of who you think God has planned for you to be and how you are to interact primarily in your marriage and family.”
Hmm. Based on Dare 3, where I mentioned discipleship, write a purpose statement. How does that tell me how to interact in my marriage and family? I knew I should have picked the whole household management section, but I didn’t want to set myself to be promising to clean my house. I’m not seeing the connection yet. I’ve decided to believe that there will be one at some point.
So, I’m going to be more prayerful and more regular in my Bible reading.
Purpose statement: I am a daughter of God. I am a sister in Christ. I love my husband more than myself. If he loses his shirt, I will give him mine. (Yeah, he’d like it if I took the shirt off my back, but I’m pretty sure he’d no longer be worried about clothes of his own.) Our marriage is the primary earthly relationship through which my husband experiences the love of God and the mercy of Christ.
There, that doesn’t sound too bad. But can I do that? When I pray and then type with my eyes closed and God guiding my fingers, I end up with some pretty decent things.
Oh, wait. I didn’t mention anything about respect in there. Well, I think it’s wrapped up in the love part. At this point in time, I’m seeing this Respect Dare as learning to submit to God. I struggle with that all the time. So I think this purpose statement does a good job of representing where I think I need to be heading.
Sisters, will you share your purpose statement in the comments? What did you learn about yourself doing this Dare?