The Unbroken Woman blog is hosting The Respect Dare. Starting July 10, participants will be using Nina Roesner’s The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband as a guide, posting about their journey. And I will be doing it with you!
For this one, I was supposed to go through an assessment and identify opportunities for my own development. I like to think I know myself pretty well. I figured this one would be pretty easy. After Dare 2, I really needed one to be easy.
I did the assessment, and here are my notes about each of the main areas and where I could grow:
- Consistent time in prayer
- Read Bible regularly
- Household manager—Every single item listed is something I stink at. I hate housework. On the few occasions when things have been organized, I’ve felt like I had no purpose, like I was just floating around waiting to die. (Hmm…must explore later….is a messy house some weird insurance against my death? That makes no sense, but it sure would explain a lot….)
- Communicator—I’m pretty good in this area. With a couple exceptions which I deeply regret, I don’t criticize my husband in public. I definitely never criticize him to my mother. I never, ever have. People outside my marriage consider me pretty positive. My husband thinks I complain all the time and that I’m never happy……Ding! Ding! Ding! Light bulb moment! Writing this makes me realize that I don’t remember the last time he said this. Is it possible that working on the other stuff in our marriage has already made an impact on this area? Okay, maybe I can do this Respect Dare thing after all.
- Confident and assured woman—I’m pretty awesome at this. Well, okay, I’m insecure about some things. However, as I’ve grown in my relationship with God, my insecurities don’t surface as much. Coincidence? I think not.
My answers to the questions about how the assessment went:
- It wasn’t hard, and I feel okay about it.
- I’ve always been pretty reflective about my life. I’ve gotten better at self-assessment as part of my other marriage work, so this felt natural. Yay! A Dare inside my comfort zone!
- Yes, I can trust these feelings. If I couldn’t, I would be questioning myself.
- What do I feel most led to work on? Well, I should say household management. But I know that the foundation of everything else is my relationship with God, so I am led to work on my prayer life and Bible reading.
- If I could grow in these areas over the next 40 days, I would be in a better place to see what else I need to work on and I would be better equipped. Plus, I’d get more ideas of things to write about in my blog.
- My relationship with God would be better because, duh, I’d be spending more time with Him. My relationship with my husband would be better because my relationship with God would be better.
I’m so excited that I had one that wasn’t hard. It’s a trick, though, isn’t it?
So, sisters, how are you all doing with your Respect Dare?