Author: Chris Taylor

If you are unhappy, chances are that your husband is, too. And chances are that both of you need to make some changes. Stop waiting for your husband to take the first step. Someone needs to go first, and it might as well be you.

You Go First

If you are unhappy, chances are that your husband is, too. And chances are that both of you need to make some changes. Stop waiting for your husband to take the first step. Someone needs to go first, and it might as well be you.

How do you let go of hurt? It's easy to say, "Let go and let God." "Forgive your husband." "Forgive yourself." "Give it to God." It's easy to say those things, but it isn't so easy to do them. Healing is a process—and so is forgiving.

Holding On

How do you let go of hurt? It’s easy to say, “Let go and let God.” “Forgive your husband.” “Forgive yourself.” “Give it to God.” It’s easy to say those things, but it isn’t so easy to do them. Healing is a process—and so is forgiving.

As I worked on myself to change my sexual interactions with my husband, I began to see him as a child of God, just like me—imperfect, sinful, with a hurting heart. The walls around the black hole of my heart began to thin and weaken, and the hurt began to escape. The pain and hopelessness drained from my heart, to be replaced by joy, contentment, and hope. Somewhere along the way from where I was to where I am now, I learned to forgive my husband.

Be Still

As I worked on myself to change my sexual interactions with my husband, I began to see him as a child of God, just like me—imperfect, sinful, with a hurting heart. The walls around the black hole of my heart began to thin and weaken, and the hurt began to escape. The pain and hopelessness drained from my heart, to be replaced by joy, contentment, and hope. Somewhere along the way from where I was to where I am now, I learned to forgive my husband.