Be A Groupie

Ever since God said it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone, we have been in community with others.

As Christians, we need fellowship with other believers. We also need others to encourage, counsel, and sharpen us.

Consider these scriptures:

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. 1 John 1:7

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15:22

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17

These verses apply just as much to sexuality as they do to other aspects of our lives. If you want to grow in the area of sexuality and marital intimacy, look for support from others. Find a group, or form a group.

Face-to-Face Fellowship

There is no substitute for support from someone who can look you in the eyes and know when you’ve hit a rough patch. Sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on—and one that comes with a real hug is best.

Many churches offer small groups in which their members can gather in community as they pursue spiritual growth. Perhaps members serve as mentors for others, as individuals or as couples. When you have an option for real life support from people you actually know, that is a great opportunity for community and connection.

When it comes to marital intimacy, though, it isn’t always easy to connect with others for encouragement and counsel. We’re often uncomfortable talking about private issues. We don’t want to be perceived as speaking poorly of our spouses. We struggle to be authentic and vulnerable about our own wounds and sins. We may not have ever spoken certain words out loud to our husbands, much less someone we aren’t married to.

Even when we’re willing to reach out and get help, many churches lack the resources and experience to support members in the area of sex and sexuality.

Community Online

Fortunately, modern technology allows us to connect in community for support as we grow in marital sexuality.

We can share only virtual hugs and cybershoulders to cry on, but sometimes it’s easier to share something in writing, with someone you know won’t be looking at you while you’re saying it.

I’d like to point you to some online Christian marriage communities that you may find helpful in providing support for improving sexual intimacy.

Note: Several of the groups and sites listed below are in transition with new formats or locations. I’ll try to keep this updated. May 2019

Honeycomb & Spice

My online community is an authentic and private place for Christian wives who want encouragement as they grow in the area of sexual intimacy. 

The general community provides opportunities to have conversations about a variety of subjects related to sexual intimacy, ranging from figuring out what’s okay in the bedroom to sex tips to past sexual trauma and more. Within this community, we also have private circles for women who want support in a specific area. They are communities within a community.

These smaller communities include my groups that used to be on Facebook:

First Steps

The First Steps group is for wives who are just getting started on the journey to address their struggles with sex. It is a secret group, so only other group members will know you are part of it. Your posts won’t be visible to your Facebook friends.

If you are starting to work on sexual issues that have been weighing you down, this group might be a good fit for you. Maybe you are in need of sexual healing and wholeness, or maybe you just got out of the habit of sex and aren’t sure how to get back on track.

Women in the Middle

This group is for women trying to figure out sex, marriage, and their bodies during middle age.

You can find the Honeycomb & Spice community here.

Facebook Groups

Passion Pursuit Study

If you are a Christian wife who wants to learn God’s truth about sex and pursue sexual passion in marriage, this study is for you!  Passion Pursuit is by Linda Dillow and Juli Slattery at Authentic Intimacy. I’ll be leading a group through the study.

This study runs twice a year and lasts for ten weeks.

To learn more about the study and find links for purchasing the workbook, visit this page on the blog.

I want to encourage you to check out these groups from my sister bloggers/podcasters.

OysterBed7 Christian Marriage Group

Run by Bonny at OysterBed7

Purpose: A place that focuses on supporting low libido wives but not exclusive to that. For wives to connect, to ask questions, to ask for prayer, and to find encouragement all within a biblical framework. Wives only.

You can find the group here: OysterBed7 Christian Marriage Group

Hot Holy & Humorous Community

Run by J at Hot, Holy & Humorous

Purpose: This community page is to provide a safe place for husbands and wives to discuss God’s design for sex in marriage. The group includes both men and women.

You can find the group here: Hot Holy & Humorous Mixed-Gender Group

Hot Holy & Humorous HD 

Run by J at Hot, Holy & Humorous

Purpose: Hosted by J. Parker of hotholyhumorous.com, this community is EXCLUSIVELY for higher drive wives in Christian marriages. The goal of this group is to provide resources, support, and encouragement for wives who have higher sexual drives than their husbands. This group is only for high-drive wives.

You can find the group here.

The Marriage Bed

The Marriage Bed played a significant role in my own journey to address sexual intimacy, so I want to be sure to mention it here. The site has recently changed to a question-and-answer format.

You can find the site here.

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