Truth
In honor of our anniversary, every day this week I am posting about something I’m thankful for in my husband–something I love or respect. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ …
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Anniversary Week
At the end of this week, my husband and I will celebrate our 22nd anniversary–and we will truly celebrate our anniversary for the first time. …
Prodigal Wives
The irony does not escape me. Some would call my changed behavior an awakening, as though I’d been asleep before. I wasn’t asleep. I …
Hungering for Connection
In my bad years, I had many excuses I would give my husband for why we couldn’t have sex that week/day/minute. I recognize now that …
Seasons
It is a Friday afternoon, and I am listening to the winds howl outside while the snow pellets hit my window. When I walked in …
An Outward and Visible Sign
During the time in my life when my friends and I were getting married, our preparations included thinking about foundation garments—underclothing that helps shape …
Ack! What Am I Doing?
I’ve tried to shorten this blog post or break it into two or three smaller segments. I just can’t do it. It needs to be …
Beyond Redemption
I wanted to write about change, so as any good researcher would do, I did an internet search for thoughtful quotations about change and …
If Only Real Life Had Thought Bubbles
For much of the first ten years of my marriage, I was a sexual gatekeeper, insisting on the right set of conditions before things could proceed. …
Feathering the Empty Nest
In “Confession Time,” Lori of The Generous Wife blog shares some of her life with us. One comment just jumped out at me: 6. I’m surprised …
Measuring Growth
If you are trying to make some changes in yourself and your marriage, don’t let yourself be discouraged because you can’t see change from day to day. Growth should be measured in the long view.
5 Things I’ve Learned
When I began my journey of sexual transformation, it didn’t even occur to me that I was beginning a journey. I just figured it …
A Blessed Wife
I used to blame my husband for my years of sexual control in our lives. He wasn’t helpful around the house, he didn’t listen to …
Sarah’s Story
During my gatekeeping years, I often thought of Sarah. Yes, that Sarah. Mrs. Abraham. Sarai. There were far too many nights when I found myself …
Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2
I’ve spent a lot of time talking about the process of getting to where I am. My focus in this blog is to look at …