Five Years, Five Lessons
September 5, 2010, was a significant day in our marriage. It was the day my eyes were opened to the hurt my husband was experiencing …
Journey Toward Intimacy
Questioning an Assumption: Is Being Valued for Sex Such a Bad Thing?
In the most recent installment of the on-going conversation I’m having with CSL at The Curmudgeonly Librarian, I made a comment about wives feeling …
Be Strong and Courageous
You matter to God. Your marriage matters to God. A strong marriage gives us a picture of how Christ loves the church. It provides stability in the face of the inevitable storms of life. A strong marriage is worth every moment, every effort, and every prayer you give.
A Quiet Proclamation
I once thought my husband and I would spend years in a marriage without intimacy. Now, even when we are sound asleep, our intimacy is loud and clear.
What’s In It for Me?
For years, the idea of making changes in sexual intimacy had evoked the question, What’s in it for me? It turned out that I benefited even more than my husband did!
Broken Record: Do You Revisit Long-Ago Events?
Today I am writing about something that some of you may not have experienced: a broken record. If that’s the case, just gather round while …
A Wife’s Heart: A Colloquy
As I wrote about last week, CSL at The Curmudgeonly Librarian invited me to write a guest post in which I got to respond …
A Wife’s Heart
And now for something completely different . . . or not. I write for women, not for men—most of the time. While most of my …
I Am My Husband’s Garage
A couple months ago, my husband Doug (aka Big Guy) called me on his way home from work, just as he always does. He asked …
Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s?
What happens when we stop thinking that our sexual response should look just like that of our husbands? What if we instead chose to celebrate our differences and embrace what our female sexual response brings to the intimacy in our marriages?
Rebuilding Trust after My Husband Had an Addiction to Pornography
If you have discovered that your husband is addicted to pornography, the sense of betrayal you feel may be devastating. (See this article at Covenant …
Collateral Growth
As you work on sexual intimacy, you may see find that you grow in other areas as well.
Six Things to Know about Emotional Disconnection
I spend a lot of time here writing about our husbands. That grows out of my own experience. I’ve written about the difficult moment when …
Reach for Intimacy
If you’re in a hurting marriage without intimacy, begin where you are. Work on one thing you see in front of you. Reach out for intimacy.
Why I Have Sex When I’m Upset with My Husband
In recent comments on a post from last year, a woman asked about having sex with your husband when you’re mad at him: “I …