20 Tips for Dealing with Jaw Pain from Oral Sex

Oral sex can be a great way to bless your husband sexually. If you experience jaw pain, however, it might not seem like such a great idea.

Fortunately, there are some things you can do that can minimize jaw pain and help you enjoy giving your husband oral sex.

Here are 20 tips to help you make oral sex for him more comfortable for your jaw.

Techniques and positions

We often think of oral sex in one way: the husband thrusting his penis and out of his wife’s mouth. This can lead to some jaw pain, especially if done for a long time.  

However, there are lots of ways of doing oral sex that look nothing like that. Oral sex simply means that you are using your mouth—which includes your lips and tongue—to stimulate his genitals. While oral sex might be the only thing going on during a sexual encounter, quite often it is only part of a sexual encounter.

To minimize jaw pain, look for techniques or positions that put less strain on your jaw or that reduce the amount of time you are using your mouth.

1. Avoid prolonged and deep penetration to avoid having to keep your mouth open wide for long.
2. Use positions that reduce stress on your jaw, neck, and facial muscles. For example, you can kneel in front of him while he stands or sits on a bed or chair so his penis is level with your mouth.
3. Use your tongue and lips to kiss and lick his penis and scrotum rather than putting your mouth around his genitals.
4. Wrap your hands around the base of his penis to minimize the depth of penetration.
5. Use your hands to caress his scrotum during oral sex to enhance the sensations for him. This can ensure that there is still something going on even if you need to rest your jaw for a moment. Also, if he is having a hard time finishing, adding this might help him on his way.
6. Ask your husband to not push your head down and to let you control the motions. If you aren’t sure you can trust him not to do things that put more strain on your jaw, your jaw can be tense in anticipation—and that tension definitely doesn’t help.
7. Use lots of other kinds of stimulation before your mouth gets involved. Use your hands. Use your breasts. Provide extra visual stimulation (such as stripping, wearing extra racy lingerie, or touching yourself) to enhance his excitement so he will need less oral stimulation.

Timing

When you do things can be as important as how you do them.

1. Orgasm can involve muscle tension throughout your body—including your jaw. If this is the case for you, use oral sex as part of an encounter when you aren’t pursuing an orgasm.
2. Avoid open-mouth kissing, or minimize the use of your tongue during kissing.
3. Plan ahead. If you know you want to give your husband oral sex, avoid overworking your jaw and neck before and after. Save long conversations, activities that involve a hunched-over posture while standing or sitting, food that requires much chewing, or dental appointments for other days, or for a different time of day.
4. Have intercourse first and switch to oral sex right at the end. (If you don’t like the taste of yourself on his penis, you could use a flavored condom for either intercourse or oral.)
5. Take an anti-inflammatory or pain-reducing medication about an hour before you plan to give your husband oral sex.

Jaw care

If you experience jaw pain when giving your husband oral sex, you might be experiencing jaw pain at other times as well. Taking care of your jaw can make life more comfortable—and it can help oral sex, too.

1. See a doctor or dentist for recurring jaw pain, especially if you suspect that you have TMJ.
2. If recommended, wear a bite guard at night.
3. Use heat packs and/or cold packs as needed to reduce is comfort.
4. Do jaw strengthening exercises. (See this page for suggestions.)
5. Avoid caffeine, which can increase muscle tension.
6. Get a good night’s sleep, with a good mattress and a pillow that provides the support you need. (I use the Everpillow. If you use this link, I earn a commission—and the code FW10 will give you a 10% discount!)
7. If you clench your jaw when you feel stressed, look for ways you can reduce your stress or manage it more effectively.
8. Use massage to reduce discomfort. Three Ways a TMJ Massage Can Relieve Jaw Pain is not on a medical website, but the suggestions are consistent with what I read on several medical websites. Consult your health care provider to determine whether these techniques might be helpful for you.

A bonus tip!

This is an obvious one, but I want to say it anyway:

Give your jaw the rest it needs.

You are more important than oral sex. If your jaw needs rest, then rest your jaw. If you want to give your husband oral sex but find that these tips would interfere with your daily living, then don’t try them. Take oral sex off your sexual menu for a time, even if it is a very long time. Oral sex is not an obligation in marriage.

What other tips would you add to this list?

Helpful posts

• Learning to Like Giving Your Husband Oral Sex – Awaken Love
• Oral Sex: Blessing Your Husband and Learning to Be Blessed – links to all my oral sex posts, including Dealing with a Gag Reflex
• Oral Sex: How To – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Q&A: Oral Sex and TMJ – Christian Nymphos
• What Does He Mean by “Oral Sex”? (It May Not Be What You Think) – Hot, Holy & Humorous

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