What does a transformed marriage look like?
As you work on your marriage, it can grow in amazing ways and look quite different. These posts encourage you to think about changes in trust, intimacy, healing, and more.
Some time after I began to make changes in my approach to sex and sexuality, I frequently experienced “a-ha!” moments, recognized deep contentment, and acknowledged how very different our marriage had become. I consider these posts to be like my “before” and “after” images of our marriage.
I hope they encourage you!
- First Comes Trust?
- Sin and Sacrifice
- Today, pray.
- Choose Joy
- We Still Stumble
- Touchstone: Sex Is Fun, Part 1
- Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2
- A Blessed Wife
- Beyond Redemption
- Prodigal Wives
- Learning to Ask: The Transformation Is Not Complete
- I Am Blessed
- Grumpish
- Denying My Husband, Denying Myself
- Intimate Moments
- Happy Tingles
- Mourning Wood
- Just That Good
- The Joy of Earbuds
- Addendum
- Sump Pump Saga
- When Old Feelings Resurface
- Shelter from a Storm
- Growing, Together
- When Prayers Change
- In a Heartbeat
- In Sickness and in Health
- Dare 9: The Value of Deep Breaths
- The Next Leg
- A World of Difference
- Dare 35: A Revelation
- The Gift of Healing
- Sex: It’s Not What It Used to Be
- Through the Rain
- Unexpected Healing
- How Not to Think About Sex
- Storms and Grace
- Rejoicing Will Come
- What Would You See in the Spotlight?
- Rock Your World
- How Love Looks
- Five Days and Ten Years
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My wife and I are living the life that you broke through. We rarely have sex or any intimate acts. It’s been this way for 20 years now.
This morning I sent her some captions from your blog writings. She hates when I do this. It’s not the first time or just your blog.
Our marriage is on the rocks because she is the gater of our intimacy and I resent her for it. It is a horrible cycle.
We have been to counseling and she was told she nears to change her ways because it is a sin. Although it remains the same and she blames me for it.
Our Christian married counselor explained this to her and if she doesn’t change her ways there is a good chance we could get a divorce. The problem is, I can’t get a divorce because I made a commitment to her and myself in the presence of God.
I pray for my understanding of my marriage and for her sex drive to improve. I’m sure that is not the best thing to pray for but I think God understands.
I don’t know what to do at this point but I wanted you to know you are not alone in marriage challenge.
If you know she hates it, doing this is going to push her farther away and make her less likely to read what you’ve sent her.
I want to suggest you read 11 Tips for Husbands–and be sure to read the explanations.
On my first post I said my wife hates when I send her texts of blogs. . . It’s not because of the topic it’s because she doesn’t like to read on her phone.
She thought your information was good. I also asked her to read your blog or at least some of it so we could start a dialog on the topic.
I also read your suggestions.
Let me start by saying we have been to Christian counseling and it did expose some real issues we have. I was fully aware of mine before we went. I was open about it and I believe I have improved greatly. I resent my wife for not sharing her intimacy with me. Then after months of asking I get very short with her. Now I just walk away.
My wife on the other hand has a hormone issue that she refuses to address. It was a major topic in our Christian counseling and I believe it is the reason of our lack of intimacy. She did seek some holistic cures for a while and it worked. We were both much happier than she stopped treatment. To have your cake pulled from in front of you is tough to deal with.
I will also add that when she gives in to my begging she is very happy after and we are closer for about two weeks then she drifts away.
I do pray almost every day. Truly, it’s more about me understanding my wife and guidance for my path. I do ask for my wife’s sex drive to improve although this is not something for praying.
I was hoping she would read your blog and understand it doesn’t need to be the way we are.
Anyway, thank you for your time and your blog. It’s nice to hear you found a better path for your marriage and family. I will keep reading and hoping for our path to improve.