Early this year, I began a series on sexual healing and wholeness. I invited other bloggers to share their stories of pursuing healing in the area of sexuality.
I’d like to wrap up this year by sharing my own story.
In some ways, it’s a story I’ve shared with you time and time again. You’ll find pieces of my story woven throughout the entire blog. My first two blog posts (The Pit of Refusal and Crawling Out of the Pit) tell my story as I knew it at the time.
Even as I’ve tried to encourage you to grow in the area of sexual intimacy, God has continued growing me in that arena as well. When I began this blog, I had already experienced a significant amount of transformation that had turned sex around. It’s fair to say that since then, I’ve experienced a spiritual transformation that has been even bigger than that.
This spiritual aspect of sexual wholeness is the story I really want to tell here. Even when I thought my story was about baggage or about relational disconnection from my husband, all along, the story has really been about God.
As I’ve thought about how to share this story, I’ve realized that I need to talk about a couple other important elements.
I’m going to break my story down and share it over the next three weeks. Here’s what you can expect:
Part 1: Sexual integrity
My brokenness and the lack of wholeness with my sexuality was based on how others saw me as a woman. My hurt developed in response to others, yet I expected it to heal in total isolation, even from my husband.
Part 2: Sexual stewardship
I fought for so long against the idea that I had been trusted to be a caretaker for my husband’s sexuality, or that I could trust him to be a caretaker for mine. When I finally accepted this charge and this trust, our marriage became an emotionally safe place where my own sexual disintegrity could begin to heal.
Part 3: Sexual invocation
It is at the intersection of sexual integrity and sexual stewardship where I have experienced God’s presence the most–and that is where I fully experience sexual wholeness.
Our Stories
This week, I’d like to invite you to read the posts that have been part of the Sexual Healing and Wholeness series. If you find something that particularly resonates with you, be sure to visit the writer’s own blog.
- Sexual Healing and Wholeness (series introduction)
- Healing After a Husband’s Affair, April Truitt ( A Wife’s Recovery from an Affair)
- What I Learned About Sex After My First Marriage Failed, Julie Sibert (Intimacy in Marriage)
- How Sexual Objectification and Modest Dressing Negatively Affected My Marriage, Keelie Reason (Love Hope Adventure)
- Healing Separately Let Us Re-Build Together, Kim Pullen (Hope & Healing for Spouses)
- He Can’t Really Be Happy with My Body, J. Parker (Hot, Holy & Humorous)
- Three Biblical Rules for Sexual Healing after Addiction, Leah Grey (Grey Ministries)
- How She Uncovered the Baggage from Having Sex with Her Husband Before Marriage, Ruth Buezis (Awaken Love)
You may also want to read other women’s stories, even though they aren’t specifically about sexual healing and wholeness. You can find a list posted on this page.
My Story of Sexual Healing and Wholeness
- Sexual Healing and Wholeness – Introduction to My Story
- Sexual Disintegrity – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #1
- Sexual Stewardship – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #2
- Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3
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