There are moments when God shines a spotlight to focus our attention on something and bring it into the light.
Today has been a hard day. During a very stressful time at work last month, I made a big mistake. Today, with no warning, I was let go. I was completely unprepared. I now face a job search, yet I am no longer sure what I want to do when I grow up.
Yet I see the blessings that people are in my life. A friend who lost her job a few months ago took me out for coffee. My kids all gave me caring hugs when I got home. After posting a prayer request online, I got lovely messages of encouragement and support from other Christians.
As wonderful as these blessings were, even better was that God allowed me to see what my marriage is now.
My husband let me interrupt him at work to talk with him on the phone. When he walked in the door at the end of the day, he reached out as I collapsed in his arms in tears. He held me up, his strong arms wrapped around me while he gently kissed my hair.
This is what husbands are for, I thought, to hold us up when we can’t stand on our own and to kiss our hair when we cry.
I thought of where our marriage was a few years ago. I had so many walls up between my husband and me, and I would have worked hard to pretend I was less upset than I really was. He would have told me how to begin a job search. I would have told him to stop trying to fix everything for me. He would have said it will be okay, and I would have itemized all the reasons he was wrong. His responses would have added to the burdens I carried and they would have left him feeling unneeded and helpless.
Now, the walls down, I let him see my raw self. He said nothing other than to tell me to take a few days to feel how I needed to feel. He told me it will be okay. I don’t know how, but now that the walls are down, I am able to believe the husband God has given me. Instead of having an additional burden, my burden is now shared. And my husband knows how much I truly need him.
If you have walls up between you and your husband, what would happen in the face of an unexpected challenge in your life? Would you be able to rely on your husband and let him hold you up, or would it just be another wedge between the two of you?
You never know what is around the bend on the path in front of you. Is your marriage prepared? If the spotlight were aimed at your marriage, what would you see illuminated?
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