My husband and I often joke that we are going to be that affectionate couple in the nursing home that gets frisky with each other.
We will kiss and hold hands. We’ll pat each other’s rears and maybe even grope from time to time. We’ll definitely still enjoy looking at each other. No one will look at us and doubt our affection for each other.
Good examples
When I was in college, one of my older professors asked his wife to come in as a guest speaker due to her unique experience with the subject we were studying. After our class, I saw them walk down the hall together. They were holding hands–even lightly swinging them–as they walked. They looked at each other and smiled several times.
It is an image that has stayed with me–an older couple that is still affectionate.
A few weeks ago, I saw the most precious thing that brought that example to mind.
I’d recently had a conversation with a friend about husbands being visually drawn to their wives. I wondered if this was something that faded away with age.
An older couple (in their 70s or 80s, I think) was sitting in front of us at an event. She was standing and bent over to pick something up off the floor.
I watched this woman’s husband, curious as to whether he would pay attention to what his wife was doing.
He gazed at her backside for a moment as she reached for the item on the floor. As she moved to stretch further, and then as she moved again to stand back up, his eyes moved along with her rear end.
He totally checked her out.
With a big smile on my face, I turned to my husband and whispered to him about what I had just seen. “That’s totally going to be us some day,” I said. His response was a big grin.
Later I saw that they were holding hands. A few rows ahead of us, I saw a couple about ten years older than us. The husband was stroking his wife’s hair.
I smiled again as I felt Big Guy’s hand stroking my hair and caressing my shoulder.
Will you be that couple?
Have you thought about how what you and your husband will be like as you grow older? Will you swat your husband’s hands away when he reaches out to pat you? Will you give him a dirty look if he looks at you?
Or will he know he is free to check you out? Will you show each other affection? Will you even sexually tease each other?
That’s the couple Big Guy and I plan to be. I encourage you to be that couple, too—and there’s no time like the present to get started.
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Hubby declared no more sex two years ago – no discussion, no conversation just told me to be content with what I have” so living Unsatisfied no We won’t be that couple and I wish and pray for change in me or him either way all I am left with is deep sadness
I’m so sorry. I will pray for your marriage today.
Love this! I’ve told my husband, it may look different than today, but we are going to have sex until the day we die.
I expect it will look very different in 30 years, but the journey will still be fun!
We are young and only married 12 years, but I’m still laughing that the neighbor girl totally busted hubby and me making out over the weekend. We don’t go that far in public, I suppose; but yes, we want to be that couple.
Good for you! Was she totally grossed out? Fortunately, there are many ways of being affectionate that don’t involve making out.
Chris, well written.
As my wife and I are hand in hand, riding in the sunset together, I’m blessed to say that both of us are savoring every single moment we are in one another’s presence.