I have a relationship with my husband that no one else has.
I know him better than anyone else does, and I am known more deeply by him than I am by anyone else.
I am the one for whom he buys flowers. Mine is the hand he holds when we pray in church.
I am his secret keeper and his biggest encourager. Mine are the arms that wrap around him when he grieves. My love is the love that matters most to him on this earth.
As Big Guy’s wife, there are things that are both my privilege and my responsibility to do.
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Recently I suggested to someone that there is something that she can do for her husband every day.
“If you don’t, who will?” I asked.
Since I usually write about sex, you may think I was encouraging her to have sex with her husband every day. For once, though, that wasn’t what I was suggesting. Now, I obviously think it’s a great idea for a wife to have sex with her husband. If we’d been talking about sex, I might have said something similar.
This time the conversation wasn’t about sex.
We were talking about prayer. Specifically, we were talking about praying for our husbands.
While it’s true that others can pray for our husbands, that doesn’t mean that they do, or that they do so with regularity or frequency.
Who is there in your husband’s life who will pray for him every day?
You. You are there.
It’s easy to pray about our husbands. Please, God, help him to understand me. God, please help him do well in his performance review. God, thank you for giving me a man who takes out the garbage every week.
Do we also remember to pray for our husbands in a real and meaningful way?
God, please help him experience joy today.
God, help him feel your presence during his performance review.
God, thank you for giving me a husband who loves you.
God, my husband is hurting today; will you show me how to help him feel loved? Will you help me remind him that he is your child just as I am?
God, please strengthen my husband’s walk with you.
As a wife, it is both your privilege and your responsibility to hold your husband up in prayer in a way that no one else does.
If you don’t, who will?
(If you are a husband, you might want to go read Do You Pray with Your Wife? at My Beloved Is Mine.)
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I know that my wife prays for me, and that I do not have to ask for her to do it. I have woken up momentarily in the middle of the night to hear her whispering to the Lord on my behalf – for all sorts of things relating to my life.
Wives, this is great advice from Chris. Take it from me – a husband – this means the world to me.
And to my beautiful wife, Tiffani… Thank you for loving me enough to pray for me.
This means a lot to my husband, too. As I do with many of my posts, I asked him to read this before I posted it. Normally he says a post is fine, funny, nice, or good. This time he said it was great. It touched him.
I really appreciate this post. Thank you.
You’re welcome. It’s a good reminder for all of us, I think.