Is Your Mind Ready to Make Some Changes?
The beginning of my decision and efforts to make changes in our marriage bed coincided with another change in my life: the right anti-depressant. I’d …
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One Night at a Time
In this morning’s sermon, our pastor talked about the battle to stay faithful, especially when being faithful means setting aside old ways. He said, “We …
Do You Say No?
I just saw this tweet from @themarriagebed: For women who say no at least 1 time in 5 http://svy.mk/13TcbU5 ◄ A two question survey. This …
Comfort During Grief
There is something so life-affirming about making love. I don’t just mean in a procreative “let’s make a baby” kind of way, either. The experience …
What If It Really Is Me?
I refused my husband for several years. The frequency was far below what he wanted, I rarely participated, and I looked at sex as just …
When Old Patterns Emerge
Even though I’ve reformed my refusing ways, there are still times when we slip into our old patterns. A couple months ago, I had a …
Simple, Not Easy
I wrote about moving forward by taking Just One Step. Sounds simple, right? It is. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy. I honestly had no …
Just One Step
If thinking about the whole journey you need to travel is intimidating, then just think about one step at a time.
My Burning Bush Moment
In this moment, I’m still searching for my voice in this blog. I know it will settle into place eventually. But even though I’m still …
I Am Forgiven
My husband has truly forgiven me for the years of sexual control, gatekeeping, and refusing. So why can’t I seem to forgive myself? I’ve moved! …
It Must Be Love
My husband has a nasty boo-boo on his foot. The thick callous on his heel cracked, so deeply that it had started bleeding. It got …
Learning to Walk
We expect some things in life to be hard—learning to drive, learning to play a musical instrument, making difficult financial and medical decisions, parenting, caring …
Sin and Sacrifice
Today I was asked how I would have responded to my husband if he had pointed out that I was sinning and then showed me …
First Comes Trust?
I am a stubborn woman. I don’t trust easily. One of the underlying issues in my refusal was my lack of trust in my husband. …
Crawling out of the Pit
My journey from sexual resistance to sexual joy was a slow crawl.