Ack! What Am I Doing?
I’ve tried to shorten this blog post or break it into two or three smaller segments. I just can’t do it. It needs to be …
Tag: marriage
Beyond Redemption
I wanted to write about change, so as any good researcher would do, I did an internet search for thoughtful quotations about change and …
If Only Real Life Had Thought Bubbles
For much of the first ten years of my marriage, I was a sexual gatekeeper, insisting on the right set of conditions before things could proceed. …
Feathering the Empty Nest
In “Confession Time,” Lori of The Generous Wife blog shares some of her life with us. One comment just jumped out at me: 6. I’m surprised …
A Blessed Wife
I used to blame my husband for my years of sexual control in our lives. He wasn’t helpful around the house, he didn’t listen to …
Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2
I’ve spent a lot of time talking about the process of getting to where I am. My focus in this blog is to look at …
Powerful Prayer
I’ve had a couple mightily powerful prayer experiences recently. I’ve seen evidence of God having worked on something at the exact time I was praying …
Adventure People
We were in a rut. We’d been married twenty years, and we hadn’t tried anything new sexually since our earliest years together. We had two …
Is Your Mind Ready to Make Some Changes?
The beginning of my decision and efforts to make changes in our marriage bed coincided with another change in my life: the right anti-depressant. I’d …
One Night at a Time
In this morning’s sermon, our pastor talked about the battle to stay faithful, especially when being faithful means setting aside old ways. He said, “We …
Just One Step
If thinking about the whole journey you need to travel is intimidating, then just think about one step at a time.
I Am Forgiven
My husband has truly forgiven me for the years of sexual control, gatekeeping, and refusing. So why can’t I seem to forgive myself? I’ve moved! …
Sin and Sacrifice
Today I was asked how I would have responded to my husband if he had pointed out that I was sinning and then showed me …
First Comes Trust?
I am a stubborn woman. I don’t trust easily. One of the underlying issues in my refusal was my lack of trust in my husband. …
Crawling out of the Pit
My journey from sexual resistance to sexual joy was a slow crawl.